How to break up with someone you love?

Ok, so we have been together for a year, I moved across the country to be with him, he works basically 2 weeks on 2 days off, i see him less then a week a month, we live together, we are have fun together, But i have sacrificed so much to make him happy, when he doesnt even give anything in return, Before he left for valentines day he said he was really excited to have a valentine so he could splurge and make it wonderful, and he wasted all his money on crap, so i missed out, not only did i have to spend it alone. So he likes to be in control he doesn't like me wearing certain things, he doesn't like that i wear make-up not only that, is he told me if i took a job at a bar that i was offered it was over. Now i have been planning to leave and move in with my friend about five hours away, but like i said i do love my bf, but there are things that i cannot deal with i was a very independent person, and now i feel like an idiot for listening to what he says when i do not even see him much, i was invited to the casino with a bunch of friends from work, and he said if i go it was over , because he didnt like me drinking around or with other guys. Im not allowed to work at a bar because i will be out til 4am everynight with guys hitting on me. I want to leave within a month or month in a half but i love him, and i keep having dreams about not ending up going i dont want either of us to get hurt, but i need to do this, how do i leave easy?How to break up with someone you love?
There no easy way to go through with this. I'd say that you should try and sit down and talk with him about all these problems, and if he really cares for you he'd be willing to work through them, so I would say that you should try to work through the problems too. If he isn't though he does not care for you, so no matter how much pain it gives you it'd be better in the long run to end it.