It has been about 2 weeks since the break up. She was my first girlfriend, love, practically my first kiss, and most importantly.. we both were firsts in sex. I was her first to only sex.. but for me it was everything lol. So we lasted 5 months but had sex 3 months. I tried to wait but it was hard, i made her wait 2 months to say i love you. Ever since we had sex she started acting wierd and being very angry. So after 2 months of her being wierd (wouldnt cuddle with me) and mean to me i broke up with her bc i couldnt handle it. We broke up twice in the end and im still having a tough time getting over her. I sometimes think of her.. not as much as the first week but i wish it would go away. I know we will never be togethor again. Her reason was, she doesnt have feelings for me anymore like she use to. Apparently i was too clingy? idk. I cried when i knew we were officially over for a while. To this day i think of her alot but we dont talk even after we removed each other from fb/aim. Its bc i get jealous and cant be her friend when im around her.. so its the only option i have.. Blahhh it feels like im in a huge hole. I was in love with this girl.. idk what happened. I mean what if she was the one and i let her slip away? I know im only 17.. im hoping to find someone new in college. But idk im so depressed and dk if ill find someone ill like. Thats my problem..... i dont have a problems with girls liking me.. i have a problem with liking girls. I'll think they are cute or hott but it takes alot for them to get me to actually like them. It wierd, im not really shallow. its just how i am.. they say the best way to get over ur ex/first is to find someone new.. but idk if i can do that.. i find it very hard for me to love someone and have them love me back.. anyone ever been in this before?... blah idk what to do.. im so emotional to my friends sometimes.. i feel really bad. I got in a fight with 2 of my best friends for nothing...... ahhh help =\First love/break up story.. help?
it has been said that it takes half the time that you were together to get over someone. if that's true then you have about another month or two maybe. it's gonna be tough since she was your first love ,so don't rush into anything new. you can just hang out with new girls you don't have to date them. hang in groups with them and your friends. distractions are the best way to get over someone besides dating someone new. so keep busy, focus on college and your new life. don't check up on your ex cause if she has moved on it will be torture. when you start thinking of good times remind yourself of some of something mean she did , just to have a clearer picture of how she treated you in the end. last but not least...just give it some time you will be ok.
Friday, August 20, 2010
What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
He fell in love with me and I don't feel the same way. He asked me to be his boyfriend but I said we lived too far apart. I kind of led him on by still seing him for many weeks. He's the sweetest guy and spoils me like crazy, but all my friends tell me to end it and not remain friends.
How do I break up with him. Should I do it over email?What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
Not by text msg, email, or any other electronic communication.
Up front, face to face.
If that's not possible, phone call.What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
OK, be honest. Explain to him that you don't share the same feelings for him as he has for you. This is no one's fault. Best to do it in person rather than by email, phone, etc.
Two months may seem like a long time, but it's not two years!
No, take a trip down to see him and do it in person! Explain why you feel you need to leave and more importantly listen to his thoughts and feelings! Break ups are hard, but if handled correctly you might be able to continue your friendship!
No email....you need to talk to him if you have any respect for him at all and it sounds like you do. You'll be doing him a favor because he needs to move on.
There is a blog on dating and relationship advices. You might be interested in the long distant relationship article
Out of my 33 girls I've only been dumped twice. One by phone and the other in person. I personally just stop calling them and they go away
Face this: Relationship won't work with Guilty!!!
Honestly and Respectfully.
How do I break up with him. Should I do it over email?What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
Not by text msg, email, or any other electronic communication.
Up front, face to face.
If that's not possible, phone call.What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
OK, be honest. Explain to him that you don't share the same feelings for him as he has for you. This is no one's fault. Best to do it in person rather than by email, phone, etc.
Two months may seem like a long time, but it's not two years!
No, take a trip down to see him and do it in person! Explain why you feel you need to leave and more importantly listen to his thoughts and feelings! Break ups are hard, but if handled correctly you might be able to continue your friendship!
No email....you need to talk to him if you have any respect for him at all and it sounds like you do. You'll be doing him a favor because he needs to move on.
There is a blog on dating and relationship advices. You might be interested in the long distant relationship article
Out of my 33 girls I've only been dumped twice. One by phone and the other in person. I personally just stop calling them and they go away
Face this: Relationship won't work with Guilty!!!
Honestly and Respectfully.
How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
Like after you break up with someone you really loved.How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
on average a year. How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
Edited:
According to research, there is no cure for the heartbreak that stems from lost love, if it was love in every sense of the word. 鈽?br>
In the case of a heartbreak that came from the loss of a companionship or connection of which one discovered was simple chemistry, there are theories as to measure how much time it takes to heal. One theory is that it takes just as long to heal as it took to start the relationship and then end it. Another one states that it takes just as long to feel whole and not ';in love'; as it took when one simply imagined the idea of the person, to the time they realized what they were all about. Dr. Susan London, in one of her books, said it only takes a day for a person to be hypnotized by specialists (for the purpose of forgetting).
鈽?As far as it being the case of falling in love 100%, there is always extra research to find a cure.
i broke up with the man i fell in love with about a over the summer and i have dated him for about two years...i fell in love...i thought i was going to marry him. i thought this is my wonder mann...then he cheated on me and i never forgave myself for being so stupid. and i have had one relationship since then and i am still...to this very day...in love with him. and i dont think i will ever not love him.
My dads girlfriend was quite right on the dot when she told me this.
When my boyfriend first broke up with me, she asked ';How long did you go out?'; I said ';5 months';. She says ';It takes half the time you dated them to get over them';
And wouldn't you know it..i was over him in 2 1/2 months.
Hope I helped :)
well it took me two years but honesty it depends on why you broke up and who broke up wit who and when YOUR ready to stop. But i really feel you never stop loving someone you truly love...
There's no real answer to that. Sometimes it can happen rather quickly and other times much longer.
sometimes if u just start dating again and putting urself out there it will go away
Sometimes you never do..I'm hoping someone changes my mind about that someday...
years.
on average a year. How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
Edited:
According to research, there is no cure for the heartbreak that stems from lost love, if it was love in every sense of the word. 鈽?br>
In the case of a heartbreak that came from the loss of a companionship or connection of which one discovered was simple chemistry, there are theories as to measure how much time it takes to heal. One theory is that it takes just as long to heal as it took to start the relationship and then end it. Another one states that it takes just as long to feel whole and not ';in love'; as it took when one simply imagined the idea of the person, to the time they realized what they were all about. Dr. Susan London, in one of her books, said it only takes a day for a person to be hypnotized by specialists (for the purpose of forgetting).
鈽?As far as it being the case of falling in love 100%, there is always extra research to find a cure.
i broke up with the man i fell in love with about a over the summer and i have dated him for about two years...i fell in love...i thought i was going to marry him. i thought this is my wonder mann...then he cheated on me and i never forgave myself for being so stupid. and i have had one relationship since then and i am still...to this very day...in love with him. and i dont think i will ever not love him.
My dads girlfriend was quite right on the dot when she told me this.
When my boyfriend first broke up with me, she asked ';How long did you go out?'; I said ';5 months';. She says ';It takes half the time you dated them to get over them';
And wouldn't you know it..i was over him in 2 1/2 months.
Hope I helped :)
well it took me two years but honesty it depends on why you broke up and who broke up wit who and when YOUR ready to stop. But i really feel you never stop loving someone you truly love...
There's no real answer to that. Sometimes it can happen rather quickly and other times much longer.
sometimes if u just start dating again and putting urself out there it will go away
Sometimes you never do..I'm hoping someone changes my mind about that someday...
years.
After breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
Okay, here's the deal.
I broke up with her yesterday after two years, two months, and nineteen days. It sucked. I bawled. Etc. And she didn't flinch. I thought she was manipulative and controlling - and when I told her this, she said that everything I thought was manipulative and controlling was a joke. Well, those things didn't feel like jokes at the time.
Point is, today I feel like I made a mistake. A big mistake. I can't stop thinking about her and how she's doing and if she's being safe on her trip today or not. This makes me think: I still care, that's obvious. But do I still love her? Did I make a mistake thinking that I didn't love her? Because I've finally found the right answer to her question, ';Jen, what is it you want?'; The answer is, ';I WANT YOU! I want you and your love and noone else!';
And she's not going to take me back.
Any advice at all? Oh, god, this is sooo complicated. I really messed up.After breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
Yes is normal to feel this way, and the feeling wont rub off for quite a while even if you're the one breaking it up.
Hang in there, good luckAfter breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
It also sounds like the script from a romantic comedy or 2k. In your initial question are the words, ';don't love anymore'; and near the end of your detail, ';i want you and noone else'.
you are obviously confused and just as passionate about her. she is not a yo-yo though, so make up your mind and beg her forgiveness if that is what you decide.
You are confused and need to give this some thought and some time. If you thought she was manipulative and controlling, then she probably is and will manipulate you to think that you are wrong and she is right. However, I don't know both sides of the story, so give it some time and see what happens. A little time apart won't hurt the relationship unless one of the people is seeing someone else. So just take a deep breath and take some space and time to think about it. Good luck!
It goes along with that cliche: I love you, but I'm not in love with you. You still care for her, but you know she isn't the one.
You did the right thing. Time will heal you and you will find someone better and hopefully not so manipluative. She even made you feel bad for breaking up with her! That takes a special talent.
It'll be hard but move on. You will be happier in the long run. I wish you luck!
well sounds like ur confused..........but u might not still love her but the love u have for her will always be there it will just turn into a diffrent kind of love !!!!!!!!
It seems like you have messed up a little ... There is almost nothing you could do right now, just continue (not an easy task) and do something you have always wanted while being in the relationship but were not free to do (travel, paint, read a book late in the night ...) We all make mistakes, we all have our regrets, that's growing and such is life...
wait your a girl and shes a girl. Oh okay. Yeh it is normal to feel you did something wrong it is like that after all relationships dioesnt matter with a guy or a girl its gonna hurt. But you will get over it
I broke up with her yesterday after two years, two months, and nineteen days. It sucked. I bawled. Etc. And she didn't flinch. I thought she was manipulative and controlling - and when I told her this, she said that everything I thought was manipulative and controlling was a joke. Well, those things didn't feel like jokes at the time.
Point is, today I feel like I made a mistake. A big mistake. I can't stop thinking about her and how she's doing and if she's being safe on her trip today or not. This makes me think: I still care, that's obvious. But do I still love her? Did I make a mistake thinking that I didn't love her? Because I've finally found the right answer to her question, ';Jen, what is it you want?'; The answer is, ';I WANT YOU! I want you and your love and noone else!';
And she's not going to take me back.
Any advice at all? Oh, god, this is sooo complicated. I really messed up.After breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
Yes is normal to feel this way, and the feeling wont rub off for quite a while even if you're the one breaking it up.
Hang in there, good luckAfter breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
It also sounds like the script from a romantic comedy or 2k. In your initial question are the words, ';don't love anymore'; and near the end of your detail, ';i want you and noone else'.
you are obviously confused and just as passionate about her. she is not a yo-yo though, so make up your mind and beg her forgiveness if that is what you decide.
You are confused and need to give this some thought and some time. If you thought she was manipulative and controlling, then she probably is and will manipulate you to think that you are wrong and she is right. However, I don't know both sides of the story, so give it some time and see what happens. A little time apart won't hurt the relationship unless one of the people is seeing someone else. So just take a deep breath and take some space and time to think about it. Good luck!
It goes along with that cliche: I love you, but I'm not in love with you. You still care for her, but you know she isn't the one.
You did the right thing. Time will heal you and you will find someone better and hopefully not so manipluative. She even made you feel bad for breaking up with her! That takes a special talent.
It'll be hard but move on. You will be happier in the long run. I wish you luck!
well sounds like ur confused..........but u might not still love her but the love u have for her will always be there it will just turn into a diffrent kind of love !!!!!!!!
It seems like you have messed up a little ... There is almost nothing you could do right now, just continue (not an easy task) and do something you have always wanted while being in the relationship but were not free to do (travel, paint, read a book late in the night ...) We all make mistakes, we all have our regrets, that's growing and such is life...
wait your a girl and shes a girl. Oh okay. Yeh it is normal to feel you did something wrong it is like that after all relationships dioesnt matter with a guy or a girl its gonna hurt. But you will get over it
Someone you love or someone who loves you?
How do you break up with someone who loves you? I have a long distance bf and I want to break up with him. He's really nice and I can feel that he loves me so much that it makes me guilty to cheat on him (Sorta). How can I tell him that it's over and make him look for another girl?Someone you love or someone who loves you?
Lucky for you it's long distance, so he can't really see what's going on with your life. First of all don't tell him that it has anything to do with the fact that there is another guy. That kinda stuff hurts to much.
Here's the way I would lay it down to him.
Look I really like you a lot, but I can no longer deal with not having you in my life. I'm sorry but this is just to much for me. I'm wanting to find someone who I can see everyday if at all possible. I know this might seem selfish to you, but I have needs too.
This is a breakup letter. Please realize that I need to move on with my life and it really has nothing to do with you. I am not leaving this for debate. I also feel that if we continue to just be friends that it will continue to make this hard on both of us and I really need to just move on. Please let us cut the contact. If you want to email me, I can't stop you. Just know though that I will not respond back.
Obviously you will want to use your own words and what works and fits the relationship that you had. However, I think if you use this as a blue print it will help soften the blow.
If he bugs you too much afterwords you can always block his email. It really is best though if you lay it strait out and cut contact.Someone you love or someone who loves you?
Okay long distance relationships barely ever work out. You just need to tell him how you really feel. If your cheating that's not right and it will make the situation worse. Just tell him ma bey in the future if we see each other around. Tell him you want to keep in touch but you need to tell him now before it gets to hard and you can't do it.
You just have to tell him the truth. Don't be harsh but tell him that you don't have feelings for him and you think its time for both of you to move on.
Sounds like no one else will treat you better than him. He is a nice guy that loves you. You might not know it but there are not many people who do.
try 2 meet up with him %26amp;%26amp; break up wit him %26amp;%26amp; tell him how u feel.. idont recommmend 2 do it through text messages tho.. cuz it's harsh.
Be honest, tell him you are trashy and that you sleep around behind his back. That will get the point across.
well tell him that you really cant have a serious relationship when you cant see eachother i think that if hes mature enough he will understand ...i would lol. good luck
Just be honest.heart rate monitor red hair
Lucky for you it's long distance, so he can't really see what's going on with your life. First of all don't tell him that it has anything to do with the fact that there is another guy. That kinda stuff hurts to much.
Here's the way I would lay it down to him.
Look I really like you a lot, but I can no longer deal with not having you in my life. I'm sorry but this is just to much for me. I'm wanting to find someone who I can see everyday if at all possible. I know this might seem selfish to you, but I have needs too.
This is a breakup letter. Please realize that I need to move on with my life and it really has nothing to do with you. I am not leaving this for debate. I also feel that if we continue to just be friends that it will continue to make this hard on both of us and I really need to just move on. Please let us cut the contact. If you want to email me, I can't stop you. Just know though that I will not respond back.
Obviously you will want to use your own words and what works and fits the relationship that you had. However, I think if you use this as a blue print it will help soften the blow.
If he bugs you too much afterwords you can always block his email. It really is best though if you lay it strait out and cut contact.Someone you love or someone who loves you?
Okay long distance relationships barely ever work out. You just need to tell him how you really feel. If your cheating that's not right and it will make the situation worse. Just tell him ma bey in the future if we see each other around. Tell him you want to keep in touch but you need to tell him now before it gets to hard and you can't do it.
You just have to tell him the truth. Don't be harsh but tell him that you don't have feelings for him and you think its time for both of you to move on.
Sounds like no one else will treat you better than him. He is a nice guy that loves you. You might not know it but there are not many people who do.
try 2 meet up with him %26amp;%26amp; break up wit him %26amp;%26amp; tell him how u feel.. idont recommmend 2 do it through text messages tho.. cuz it's harsh.
Be honest, tell him you are trashy and that you sleep around behind his back. That will get the point across.
well tell him that you really cant have a serious relationship when you cant see eachother i think that if hes mature enough he will understand ...i would lol. good luck
Just be honest.
How do you break up with someone who loves you?
My boyfriend really is in love with me, and I've come to realize I can't be in a good relationship with him because I don't trust him. Before we got more serious he made a lot of stupid decisions and gave me reasons not to trust him. But I've realized my resentment for those things is only tearing us apart, no matter how much I try to trust him. So I think it'd be better off if we were friends, but I really love him, and I know he feels the same way and it's going to crush him. And it's gonna come from out of nowhere because he's convinced we're doing really good right now. :(How do you break up with someone who loves you?
I know the feeling...
But trust me, do it now before it becomes more serious...
The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
~RebeccaHow do you break up with someone who loves you?
ok go up 2 him tell him u gotta tak 2 him and u want this 2 go really well and say sumthin like um... i know u love meh and i love u but i just really wanna be friends and i hope u'll be friends with meh because im not tryna hurt you i just thinks its the rit thing to do so can you be mii friend and if i feel better i might can start another new realtionship with you :(
Don't tell him ';It's not you it's me'; routine because it really not you it's him. Tell him that you need to gain his trust back
go with ur heart:)
good luck!
I know the feeling...
But trust me, do it now before it becomes more serious...
The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
~RebeccaHow do you break up with someone who loves you?
ok go up 2 him tell him u gotta tak 2 him and u want this 2 go really well and say sumthin like um... i know u love meh and i love u but i just really wanna be friends and i hope u'll be friends with meh because im not tryna hurt you i just thinks its the rit thing to do so can you be mii friend and if i feel better i might can start another new realtionship with you :(
Don't tell him ';It's not you it's me'; routine because it really not you it's him. Tell him that you need to gain his trust back
go with ur heart:)
good luck!
Breaking up with someone you love?
I have been with my now fiance, for 2 years. I met him and fell very hard in love with him. But things have been going down hill. I left my hometown of Denver and moved to California for him. I feel like his drinking habits, money habits, video games, and buddies will always come befor I do. I do love him more then anything, but I feel like my life is on Pause, and ';going nowhere fast.'; I want to go back home but I am scared to tell him, he gets angry quickly and snaps out when somethings wrong. I don't know how to do it. I am aware that sometimes you just have to do it but I need advice on how. If someone could please help I would appreciate it.Breaking up with someone you love?
i know this is going to be hard, but you need to really make a list of the pros and cons
does he still make you feel loved?
was it worth u leaving your home town?why?
u might not take the advice if i just said leave him, so i wont say that, but i WILL say, you should live your own life for now
i KNOW its hard to just completely let someone go, so dont.
do things u want to do, but still be with him
be with him, but dont BE WITH HIM. he will see you as being distant in the same home and he will either tell you that he misses you
or he will not care
if he doesnt care, i know it hurts, but u need to leave cuz it will hurt 20 times more later on, i know.
if he does care, let him know you feel neglected. although he knows, explain to him everything you sacrificed for him.
then yall should sort out yall's differences i hope this helpedBreaking up with someone you love?
Ask yourself if you are sure that you want to do this?
Have you told him the above? See if he has a reaction to it, but tell him in a way so that he is calm or make him promise to be calm. If you really need to leave him then just do it.
Well maybe you should just like ignore him for a few days and maybe he will realize that what his doing is wrong it work for my mother it could work for you
I think he's a bruiser..First of all, don't worry%26amp; hurry...If u have some private photos with him,just try to get them first..Because he can use such things for revenge..If u're affraid of him then u can cause him to leave u in one month..(Just try to simple things that he doesn't like%26amp;that doesn't make him so angry.little dissatisfactions will take away him from u ). Change your style(hair,clothes,..) eat a piece of onion,garlic(i know it's hard to do) every evening(don't let him to see%26amp;eat) then try to kiss him..at home wear dirty clothes,creat some more...(but don't do all of them in one day,slowly..)If he asks u,just tell him''we're a good couple now,we spent 2 years together so I trust in u%26amp; I try be natural as if I'm..(or such things)But u now everyone has different personality so change/apply the methods according to his personality
Pack your things and leave when he's gone for the day. Angry...snaps...not a good sign. It's great that you have decided not to marry this fellow. Everything you've stated about his actions screams GET OUT. You and he probably jumped too fast into a deeper commitment and you're both way too young to manage a marriage.
Get your stuff and get out. Go home. He'll figure it out. I usually don't hold with not talking about it but in this situation talking about it is not going to help and you may be harmed.
Call your daddy have him bring a truck while the guy is at work...pack and get out.
Whenever it comes to love, things are difficult to answer. I will try.
Find something common between the two of you - like smthg which brought u together. Even if it means sitting and talking together in a park, going to a movie or skiing together or his sense of humour which is the best when u r out driving. Give him a chance. If it doesnt work, go out with him (like to CO) and dont come back on the return trip. Dont tell him in CA. You should feel safe and secure when u give him the news. He will probably have the time to think about the whole thing on his return flight/drive.
And I guess good guys are hard to find. I am a guy myself. I have my girl whom I cant marry coz of parents who oppose it. I would say you are so lucky that you are atleast together. Its easy to find fault and things u dont like in each other over a period of time. But if I get my love, I would not repent my decision come what may. I would not leave my love for booze or smoke or habits - coz I dont hv any habits of the kind so far.
And gift yourselves some time and space. Go away for some time - on a vacation alone. It might help both of you to think and prioritize. I know these answers are from the head. One shd think of an answer to this from the heart. I would first like to congratulate you for having got your love and can only wish you all the best for your future.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
As the old saying goes, “There are two sides to every coin.” What if you are in a dating relationship that is moving too fast or seems to be heading more toward manipulation than friendship? How do you slow things down with minimal hurt to the other person?
Here are some things to remember when you need to break off a dating relationship:
1. Do it personally. It is too easy to break up by writing a note, through a friend, or over the phone. (So I can’t just disappear, either? This is hard!) Go to their house or a neutral location and talk it out.
2. Pray about it before you go. Pray that you do the right things and then pray for the other person in advance.
3. Face the music. Be direct and firm, but not tactful. Don’t put it off if you know it needs to happen.
4. Pick a good time. A big occasion ( such as a prom ) is a bad time to break up. If you need to, do it long before that and go with someone else. Or, if time is short, and you can, go as friends in a group so that it reduces the pressure but you still don’t miss out on the big event.
5. Be honest, but not cruel. If you have cared for that person for some time, then you owe them an explanation for why you are breaking it off. Keep it simple. Don’t run them down. Hopefully it will be a time for both of you to grow.
A lot of people get hurt because the other person is simply too self-absorbed to be courteous in such situations. Simply treating the other person the way you would want to be treated can make it easier for both of you.
Ok, I just read the part where he gets angry quickly andsnaps out when something is wrong. And you do not know what to do.
Here is my best advice, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who verbally abuses you? If he is that way, he will not change.
You have to do what makes you happy, and it sounds like you really want to go back home, and that will make you happy!
It sounds like his friends are being an influence on his drinking, his money, his video games, and it does sound like his buddies will always come before you, if he doesn't change first!
I would sit down and talk with him calmly, and tell him exactly how you feel, and if he just goes off, then well, honey, you know what to do, you belong happy, and I know that you really want to go back home.
Honey, everyone tries to make a new life for themselves and their loved ones and sometimes it just is not ment to be.
He belongs in California with his buddies and his problems, and you belong with your family.
You gave it two years of your life, you need to regain those two years and live your own life!
What it comes down to is do you love yourself because that is who need to love first, then put things in perspective. You already know and it seems like you and him have probably gone over these things that bother you.You need to do what is best for you. In the long run money careers and education play a big part of your future. Get what you want out life before you marry someone who doesn't know what the heck they are doing with their own ! you sound like a smart girl make the right choice for you. Go back up hill honey ....... leave him with his x box or playstation and negative bank account before its to late.....
You just have to tell him. It won't be easy, but it will be better.
That is so sad, I would beat your boyfriend up if I saw him on the street . He is a Horrible MAN ! JUST HORRIBLE !
Well leaving your fiance is really your choice and if you feel like you need to leave him then I think you should do what you feel is best
u betta run u cant live with a man that snaps that quickly just tell him wat u think
do not tell him that you are leaving. leave him a note and just go home, tell him not to follow you or contact you, be firm and serious. gambler and alcoholic are something that almost can't be cured. don't waste your life anymore than you already have with him. good luck.
Since he gets mad fast i would suggest, if you really mean you want to leave him, then just do it. Wait until a night or day when he goes out and just leave. Pack your clothes and go. I mean if he really cared he would see that his lifestyle makes you unhappy and it obviously does not include you. If you can sit him down and talk to him and let him know you are unhappy and how hislife style is making you feel...if he doesn't respond to this your only option is to leave unannounced. There is a saying if you love someone let them go......
wow... talk to him about it calmly and if he spazes out be like ';Woah clam down.'; you know? Does he hit you? If he does u rlly need to leave him. or call the police to help. But anyway, just say that u feel like ur life has been going nowhere and that u do really love him..but u need to do that for yourself. Its just one of those things. Girl, please dont marry someone who snaps quickly. Do it for ur future kids. my unlce is like that ifeel SOO bad for his wife and kids.
If you are that afraid of him, leave immediately. When he is at work, pack your bags, box up your personals, get in your car and boggie on home. It will only get worse.
YOU MUST DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU!!! You really need to be honest with him, if you are scared of him then, you know what you have to do. Besides there is no place like home. Let your family know what is going on they will support you. Good Luck!
In one relationship, the most important component is ';Understanding';. What I can suggest you to do, have a nice talk with your fiance, tell him what you like and dislike. If he been so unreasonable, and you can't stand on it. You have no choice but to leave. If he able to change his life style for you, you should choose to stay.
Talk to him about it if your deeply in love with him. If he knows it really bothers you and if he really loves you, he will change.
Tell him you have decided you're leaving him and going back to Denver. Then do it.
if you don't tell him you will just be stuck in this situation and it won' change .so you just have to tell him how you feel and if he doesn't change then go back home .loving some body shouldn't make you miserable
Communication is the key. But get hime before he starts to drink %26amp; make sure you guys are alone. Listen to each other %26amp; comprimise, but not all his way.
Goodluck
Just let him know whats going on and move back to Denver. I'm so sorry to hear this :(
kick him to he curb sister..but maybe you want to give him another chance I mean there was something there for you to say yes to his proposal.
I would tell him that you love him but some things need to change or improve with the relationship. tell him you dont want to lose him but you might have to go your own way if he doesnt understand where you're coming from. If i know anything about relationships, its that he's taking you for granted and probably doesnt even realize it. (I've done it) Before you know it your packing up to go back home and it will hit him. If that doesnt get through to him I don't know what will.
Pack your things and go back home when he's at work. Give him a call when you get there and tell him how you really feel and that you need some time to think things out.
i know this is going to be hard, but you need to really make a list of the pros and cons
does he still make you feel loved?
was it worth u leaving your home town?why?
u might not take the advice if i just said leave him, so i wont say that, but i WILL say, you should live your own life for now
i KNOW its hard to just completely let someone go, so dont.
do things u want to do, but still be with him
be with him, but dont BE WITH HIM. he will see you as being distant in the same home and he will either tell you that he misses you
or he will not care
if he doesnt care, i know it hurts, but u need to leave cuz it will hurt 20 times more later on, i know.
if he does care, let him know you feel neglected. although he knows, explain to him everything you sacrificed for him.
then yall should sort out yall's differences i hope this helpedBreaking up with someone you love?
Ask yourself if you are sure that you want to do this?
Have you told him the above? See if he has a reaction to it, but tell him in a way so that he is calm or make him promise to be calm. If you really need to leave him then just do it.
Well maybe you should just like ignore him for a few days and maybe he will realize that what his doing is wrong it work for my mother it could work for you
I think he's a bruiser..First of all, don't worry%26amp; hurry...If u have some private photos with him,just try to get them first..Because he can use such things for revenge..If u're affraid of him then u can cause him to leave u in one month..(Just try to simple things that he doesn't like%26amp;that doesn't make him so angry.little dissatisfactions will take away him from u ). Change your style(hair,clothes,..) eat a piece of onion,garlic(i know it's hard to do) every evening(don't let him to see%26amp;eat) then try to kiss him..at home wear dirty clothes,creat some more...(but don't do all of them in one day,slowly..)If he asks u,just tell him''we're a good couple now,we spent 2 years together so I trust in u%26amp; I try be natural as if I'm..(or such things)But u now everyone has different personality so change/apply the methods according to his personality
Pack your things and leave when he's gone for the day. Angry...snaps...not a good sign. It's great that you have decided not to marry this fellow. Everything you've stated about his actions screams GET OUT. You and he probably jumped too fast into a deeper commitment and you're both way too young to manage a marriage.
Get your stuff and get out. Go home. He'll figure it out. I usually don't hold with not talking about it but in this situation talking about it is not going to help and you may be harmed.
Call your daddy have him bring a truck while the guy is at work...pack and get out.
Whenever it comes to love, things are difficult to answer. I will try.
Find something common between the two of you - like smthg which brought u together. Even if it means sitting and talking together in a park, going to a movie or skiing together or his sense of humour which is the best when u r out driving. Give him a chance. If it doesnt work, go out with him (like to CO) and dont come back on the return trip. Dont tell him in CA. You should feel safe and secure when u give him the news. He will probably have the time to think about the whole thing on his return flight/drive.
And I guess good guys are hard to find. I am a guy myself. I have my girl whom I cant marry coz of parents who oppose it. I would say you are so lucky that you are atleast together. Its easy to find fault and things u dont like in each other over a period of time. But if I get my love, I would not repent my decision come what may. I would not leave my love for booze or smoke or habits - coz I dont hv any habits of the kind so far.
And gift yourselves some time and space. Go away for some time - on a vacation alone. It might help both of you to think and prioritize. I know these answers are from the head. One shd think of an answer to this from the heart. I would first like to congratulate you for having got your love and can only wish you all the best for your future.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
As the old saying goes, “There are two sides to every coin.” What if you are in a dating relationship that is moving too fast or seems to be heading more toward manipulation than friendship? How do you slow things down with minimal hurt to the other person?
Here are some things to remember when you need to break off a dating relationship:
1. Do it personally. It is too easy to break up by writing a note, through a friend, or over the phone. (So I can’t just disappear, either? This is hard!) Go to their house or a neutral location and talk it out.
2. Pray about it before you go. Pray that you do the right things and then pray for the other person in advance.
3. Face the music. Be direct and firm, but not tactful. Don’t put it off if you know it needs to happen.
4. Pick a good time. A big occasion ( such as a prom ) is a bad time to break up. If you need to, do it long before that and go with someone else. Or, if time is short, and you can, go as friends in a group so that it reduces the pressure but you still don’t miss out on the big event.
5. Be honest, but not cruel. If you have cared for that person for some time, then you owe them an explanation for why you are breaking it off. Keep it simple. Don’t run them down. Hopefully it will be a time for both of you to grow.
A lot of people get hurt because the other person is simply too self-absorbed to be courteous in such situations. Simply treating the other person the way you would want to be treated can make it easier for both of you.
Ok, I just read the part where he gets angry quickly andsnaps out when something is wrong. And you do not know what to do.
Here is my best advice, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who verbally abuses you? If he is that way, he will not change.
You have to do what makes you happy, and it sounds like you really want to go back home, and that will make you happy!
It sounds like his friends are being an influence on his drinking, his money, his video games, and it does sound like his buddies will always come before you, if he doesn't change first!
I would sit down and talk with him calmly, and tell him exactly how you feel, and if he just goes off, then well, honey, you know what to do, you belong happy, and I know that you really want to go back home.
Honey, everyone tries to make a new life for themselves and their loved ones and sometimes it just is not ment to be.
He belongs in California with his buddies and his problems, and you belong with your family.
You gave it two years of your life, you need to regain those two years and live your own life!
What it comes down to is do you love yourself because that is who need to love first, then put things in perspective. You already know and it seems like you and him have probably gone over these things that bother you.You need to do what is best for you. In the long run money careers and education play a big part of your future. Get what you want out life before you marry someone who doesn't know what the heck they are doing with their own ! you sound like a smart girl make the right choice for you. Go back up hill honey ....... leave him with his x box or playstation and negative bank account before its to late.....
You just have to tell him. It won't be easy, but it will be better.
That is so sad, I would beat your boyfriend up if I saw him on the street . He is a Horrible MAN ! JUST HORRIBLE !
Well leaving your fiance is really your choice and if you feel like you need to leave him then I think you should do what you feel is best
u betta run u cant live with a man that snaps that quickly just tell him wat u think
do not tell him that you are leaving. leave him a note and just go home, tell him not to follow you or contact you, be firm and serious. gambler and alcoholic are something that almost can't be cured. don't waste your life anymore than you already have with him. good luck.
Since he gets mad fast i would suggest, if you really mean you want to leave him, then just do it. Wait until a night or day when he goes out and just leave. Pack your clothes and go. I mean if he really cared he would see that his lifestyle makes you unhappy and it obviously does not include you. If you can sit him down and talk to him and let him know you are unhappy and how hislife style is making you feel...if he doesn't respond to this your only option is to leave unannounced. There is a saying if you love someone let them go......
wow... talk to him about it calmly and if he spazes out be like ';Woah clam down.'; you know? Does he hit you? If he does u rlly need to leave him. or call the police to help. But anyway, just say that u feel like ur life has been going nowhere and that u do really love him..but u need to do that for yourself. Its just one of those things. Girl, please dont marry someone who snaps quickly. Do it for ur future kids. my unlce is like that ifeel SOO bad for his wife and kids.
If you are that afraid of him, leave immediately. When he is at work, pack your bags, box up your personals, get in your car and boggie on home. It will only get worse.
YOU MUST DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU!!! You really need to be honest with him, if you are scared of him then, you know what you have to do. Besides there is no place like home. Let your family know what is going on they will support you. Good Luck!
In one relationship, the most important component is ';Understanding';. What I can suggest you to do, have a nice talk with your fiance, tell him what you like and dislike. If he been so unreasonable, and you can't stand on it. You have no choice but to leave. If he able to change his life style for you, you should choose to stay.
Talk to him about it if your deeply in love with him. If he knows it really bothers you and if he really loves you, he will change.
Tell him you have decided you're leaving him and going back to Denver. Then do it.
if you don't tell him you will just be stuck in this situation and it won' change .so you just have to tell him how you feel and if he doesn't change then go back home .loving some body shouldn't make you miserable
Communication is the key. But get hime before he starts to drink %26amp; make sure you guys are alone. Listen to each other %26amp; comprimise, but not all his way.
Goodluck
Just let him know whats going on and move back to Denver. I'm so sorry to hear this :(
kick him to he curb sister..but maybe you want to give him another chance I mean there was something there for you to say yes to his proposal.
I would tell him that you love him but some things need to change or improve with the relationship. tell him you dont want to lose him but you might have to go your own way if he doesnt understand where you're coming from. If i know anything about relationships, its that he's taking you for granted and probably doesnt even realize it. (I've done it) Before you know it your packing up to go back home and it will hit him. If that doesnt get through to him I don't know what will.
Pack your things and go back home when he's at work. Give him a call when you get there and tell him how you really feel and that you need some time to think things out.
What will u react when someone wants to break up with u? how to forget someone you love so much?
I honestly said I hope we can still be friends but I didnt break up with him. So we did stay friends, best friends. I thought about him a lot and it hurt. I tried to write about it, I honestly did sulk for a few days, just so I could feel like I got all my feelings out in a few days, crying, scarfing chocolate, writing. You can't forget them though, but the best thing to do is try to make things better between you two so you don't hate each other, because that's what makes it hurt worse.What will u react when someone wants to break up with u? how to forget someone you love so much?
hey i love your answers there..thats wat i agree too.
What will u react when someone wants to break up with u? how to forget someone you love so much?
how to forget them? well by knowing that im worth loving and i'll find someone who will see my worth, and their part of the story has ended and im onto a new chapter
be preoccupied
do sports, your hobbies before you knew him/her and think about the fun times you have before you met him/her.
have fun, be happy for you had a break-up with a boyfriend/girlfriend and not a spouse.
well, you don't want someone to stay with you out of pity when they don't really want to be with you. it just hurts a lot to deal with... but you need to face it...
its hard and it sucks and you cant forget.
Despair, depression, initial denial, later acceptance and trying to move on in the midst of pain and sorrow - it's very similar to being confronted with a death.
Trust me, I'm in the middle of marital separation right now. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.
Best to you.
Now that it has happened to me a few times, I know enough to just try to move on, and wait for the pain to go away. Only time makes you feel better. But at least after the first time, you know that you eventually WILL feel better. The first time it happens is the hardest because you think you'll never, ever be happy again.
hey there, you will be mad, you will be hurt,you will besad,you will cry, and you will never forget a true love,as time goes by the feelings get easier to deal with,but take the time to look upon this as a learning experience,for the future!! it may help in your next relationship!! good luck,things will get better!!
It is hard to forget someone that you love but you can do it! Just stay busy with friends, do stuff that you haven't done for yourself before, and in time you will forget him.
Gettin' over someone u love or care for deeply is very hard for even the strongest person 2 deal with ';I know am dealin' with this my self'; but, by holdin' 2 someone who has let go or does not feel the same anymore will cause u more pain than it's really worth. It hurts 2 let go but the old sayin' is IF U LOVE SOME THING LET IT GO IF IT COMES BACK ITS MEANT TO B.
hey i love your answers there..thats wat i agree too.
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What will u react when someone wants to break up with u? how to forget someone you love so much?
how to forget them? well by knowing that im worth loving and i'll find someone who will see my worth, and their part of the story has ended and im onto a new chapter
be preoccupied
do sports, your hobbies before you knew him/her and think about the fun times you have before you met him/her.
have fun, be happy for you had a break-up with a boyfriend/girlfriend and not a spouse.
well, you don't want someone to stay with you out of pity when they don't really want to be with you. it just hurts a lot to deal with... but you need to face it...
its hard and it sucks and you cant forget.
Despair, depression, initial denial, later acceptance and trying to move on in the midst of pain and sorrow - it's very similar to being confronted with a death.
Trust me, I'm in the middle of marital separation right now. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.
Best to you.
Now that it has happened to me a few times, I know enough to just try to move on, and wait for the pain to go away. Only time makes you feel better. But at least after the first time, you know that you eventually WILL feel better. The first time it happens is the hardest because you think you'll never, ever be happy again.
hey there, you will be mad, you will be hurt,you will besad,you will cry, and you will never forget a true love,as time goes by the feelings get easier to deal with,but take the time to look upon this as a learning experience,for the future!! it may help in your next relationship!! good luck,things will get better!!
It is hard to forget someone that you love but you can do it! Just stay busy with friends, do stuff that you haven't done for yourself before, and in time you will forget him.
Gettin' over someone u love or care for deeply is very hard for even the strongest person 2 deal with ';I know am dealin' with this my self'; but, by holdin' 2 someone who has let go or does not feel the same anymore will cause u more pain than it's really worth. It hurts 2 let go but the old sayin' is IF U LOVE SOME THING LET IT GO IF IT COMES BACK ITS MEANT TO B.
Ever had to break up with someone you still loved?
My boyfriend is moving. We both love each other very much but his life is going in one direction and mine is going the other. We're going to be living far apart from each other. How do you cope with losing someone you had a great relationship with, and still love more than anything else in the world?Ever had to break up with someone you still loved?
It's hard darling, trust me.
I had a boyfriend just under a year ago, we were SO close.
But he had to move away for school, and i had to stay where i was, we tried it long distance, but it didn't work. It was no doubt one of the hardest things i've ever done in my ENTIRE life, i loved him more then anything. I still think about him all the time, but i dont get upset anymore, think about all the great times. You'll find eachother again if its meant to be!
Hope everything works out, truely.
:)Ever had to break up with someone you still loved?
you could still keep in touch, but that would probably make things harder. For me, i had to break up with my boyfirend that i loved that i was with for over a year because of similar situations, the thing is you;ll always remember the good times and stuff and atleast the breakup was smooth and wasnt because of a fight.
i guess youll have to look at the brighside.
but the quicker you convince yourself that there will be other guys out there for you, the easier it;ll be. :)
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It's hard darling, trust me.
I had a boyfriend just under a year ago, we were SO close.
But he had to move away for school, and i had to stay where i was, we tried it long distance, but it didn't work. It was no doubt one of the hardest things i've ever done in my ENTIRE life, i loved him more then anything. I still think about him all the time, but i dont get upset anymore, think about all the great times. You'll find eachother again if its meant to be!
Hope everything works out, truely.
:)Ever had to break up with someone you still loved?
you could still keep in touch, but that would probably make things harder. For me, i had to break up with my boyfirend that i loved that i was with for over a year because of similar situations, the thing is you;ll always remember the good times and stuff and atleast the breakup was smooth and wasnt because of a fight.
i guess youll have to look at the brighside.
but the quicker you convince yourself that there will be other guys out there for you, the easier it;ll be. :)
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How do you break up with someone...?
How do you break up with someone because you love them but do not know what they feel and want to test the relationship and see if he will fight for you?I love him and weve been best friends for a long time but he just cant express his feelings strongly the way i want him to.He tells me he doesnt convey his thoughts real well!What?!How do you break up with someone...?
if u want 2 know if he loves u..ask him..there's no need to dump him!! ahh
if u want 2 know if he loves u..ask him..there's no need to dump him!! ahh
!!!!How to make someone break up with you!!!!!?
My friend wants a divorce, but he doesn't believe in them, so his idea is, make his wife want to divorce him. He is in the Army, Iraq to be exact, and they are just not meant for each other, he loves someone else, but still feels God says no divorces so even though his best friend told him to just get the dang thing himself, he wont, so what should he do?!!!!How to make someone break up with you!!!!!?
OMG. No, please do not try and make someone break up with you. That's very inconsiderate, and puts the other person through hell. Simply make him either a) Tell her, himself or b) have someone break up for him.heart rate monitor red hair
OMG. No, please do not try and make someone break up with you. That's very inconsiderate, and puts the other person through hell. Simply make him either a) Tell her, himself or b) have someone break up for him.
How long after you break up with someone does still loving them become unnatural?
I broke up with someone 5 years ago and I still think they're more attractive, sweet, and awesome than any other female on this planet.
It was the longest, most intense relationship i've ever had.
I've not had much contact with her since, talking with her maybe once a year and hearing her being nice but equally feeling her resentment of our time together. Last time I talked to her, she kinda told me to get on with my life (go to uni, follow my dreams kinda thing - tho there may have been a subtle hint on 'move on'). She had a boyfriend who'd she'd been with for over a year. Chances are they're probably in a pretty solid relationship by now.
Am I the only person who feels like this? Measuring every other love interest by a past one, and for 5 years and always ending up thinking ';not as good/attractive to me/warm as she was'; and ';will anyone ever be as good?';.
Your thoughts pleaseHow long after you break up with someone does still loving them become unnatural?
Good luck on that one. My ex cheated on me and I broke it off. It took me 12 very long years to get over it to the point I could date again but when I did start dating again I soon lost all the really deep feelings for her. I still love her but it's not anywhere near as intense as it used to be and much more controllable of course the fact that she was killed in a car wreck had a little to do with it too I'm sure.How long after you break up with someone does still loving them become unnatural?
who knows its been over three years for me and i still feel the same for her as always
sometimes the measuring thing happens because she is still in love with you. and would you call it measuring? more likely the traits that she shared with you are traits she finds too difficult to find in or share with others. and will anyone ever be as good? more than likely ohters can be but not in the same way.
in cases like thsi people like her, wait til another comes along and maybe that could be tomorrow or could be 10 years from tomorrow, but she obviously knows what sort of person she likes to share her time with. thats a goodthing cos not manypeople know them self well enough to say what they want - only waht they dont want!
and lets face it... who wants to end p with a product they feel is 2nd best? when you find a bargain ou usually snap it up and make the most of it!
happy hunting!
I think it is a bit unnatural but, who am I to say? I know what you mean. I've been the same for almost three years. I have tried everything to just move on. I work and go to school, I go out and try to get my mind off the person and the feelings I still have for him, but it just doesn't seem to work.iI have also dated other people. The thing that confuses me is that the person still tries to talk to me every once in a while, even though he broke up with me and said he wanted nothing to do with me. WTH? But I hope you can get over this. And when you do, tell me what worked for you.
i broke up with my girl 6 months back.. i saw her today and its still the same!! its messed up.. bu then if u loved someone so deeply why would u cut them out of ur thoughts/feeling!!.. but that doesnt mean we should be stuck with the mentality of how great memories of the past were, because the chances are tomorrows days will be just as good.. if we only tried!!!
i offer no advice, but simply a thought!... if you knew u had it good once why cant u have it again??... if u found someone that loved on u only for it to fall apart then why cant u find someone for whom ur stay with,,, thus being better!!???
good luck!
It was the longest, most intense relationship i've ever had.
I've not had much contact with her since, talking with her maybe once a year and hearing her being nice but equally feeling her resentment of our time together. Last time I talked to her, she kinda told me to get on with my life (go to uni, follow my dreams kinda thing - tho there may have been a subtle hint on 'move on'). She had a boyfriend who'd she'd been with for over a year. Chances are they're probably in a pretty solid relationship by now.
Am I the only person who feels like this? Measuring every other love interest by a past one, and for 5 years and always ending up thinking ';not as good/attractive to me/warm as she was'; and ';will anyone ever be as good?';.
Your thoughts pleaseHow long after you break up with someone does still loving them become unnatural?
Good luck on that one. My ex cheated on me and I broke it off. It took me 12 very long years to get over it to the point I could date again but when I did start dating again I soon lost all the really deep feelings for her. I still love her but it's not anywhere near as intense as it used to be and much more controllable of course the fact that she was killed in a car wreck had a little to do with it too I'm sure.How long after you break up with someone does still loving them become unnatural?
who knows its been over three years for me and i still feel the same for her as always
sometimes the measuring thing happens because she is still in love with you. and would you call it measuring? more likely the traits that she shared with you are traits she finds too difficult to find in or share with others. and will anyone ever be as good? more than likely ohters can be but not in the same way.
in cases like thsi people like her, wait til another comes along and maybe that could be tomorrow or could be 10 years from tomorrow, but she obviously knows what sort of person she likes to share her time with. thats a goodthing cos not manypeople know them self well enough to say what they want - only waht they dont want!
and lets face it... who wants to end p with a product they feel is 2nd best? when you find a bargain ou usually snap it up and make the most of it!
happy hunting!
I think it is a bit unnatural but, who am I to say? I know what you mean. I've been the same for almost three years. I have tried everything to just move on. I work and go to school, I go out and try to get my mind off the person and the feelings I still have for him, but it just doesn't seem to work.iI have also dated other people. The thing that confuses me is that the person still tries to talk to me every once in a while, even though he broke up with me and said he wanted nothing to do with me. WTH? But I hope you can get over this. And when you do, tell me what worked for you.
i broke up with my girl 6 months back.. i saw her today and its still the same!! its messed up.. bu then if u loved someone so deeply why would u cut them out of ur thoughts/feeling!!.. but that doesnt mean we should be stuck with the mentality of how great memories of the past were, because the chances are tomorrows days will be just as good.. if we only tried!!!
i offer no advice, but simply a thought!... if you knew u had it good once why cant u have it again??... if u found someone that loved on u only for it to fall apart then why cant u find someone for whom ur stay with,,, thus being better!!???
good luck!
How do you deal with breaking up with someone you love after being together for almost 2 years?
I still have feelings for her and it kills me inside. I just want to get over her and I don't know how because I think about her every day and night.How do you deal with breaking up with someone you love after being together for almost 2 years?
Every different relationship is unique....
Unfortunately, time is what heals these wounds... And it could take alot of time.... Try your best not to dwell on her and the good memories... Yes, you've experienced love and all the gifts that can come with it.. But if it's over, you are just beating yourself up emotionally day after day after day.
You know you won't forget her, and she will not forget you... But Life is a long and eventful journey and ultimately it ENDS at some point... You will love again..How do you deal with breaking up with someone you love after being together for almost 2 years?
My pleasure..
Simple. You deal with it. Take it from me, I loved a guy for 3yrs (first love). Don't wallow in your sorrow. Keep your mind busy with other things. Try to not think of her as much. It will be hard to do because everything will remind you of her but try. Time will dull the memory of her. One day when you think of her it will be only objectively.
Remember time heal all wounds
it will take a long time you can think of all the bad times you had with her that may help or see if you 2 can sit down and talk it out and get back true love is hard to find so go for it good luck to you
There's no quick fix to this situation. You're going to have to simply endure the long days and give it time. Even though you're feelings for her will more than likely take a long time to fade away, I suggest you 'get back out there' as you might find someone that makes you forget her name.
Yep, keep busy and widen your mind. The world is big with a lot to experience. Lovers come and go, look forward to what is next in your life.
keep yourself as busy as possible
IF YOU'VE BEEN WITH HER FOR 2 YEARS AND YOU STILL LOVE HER, THEN MAYBE IT'S WORTH ANOTHER SHOT AT YOU ALL BEING TOGETHER.
think of it as if your best friend left. it is life. life is not fair. just get it over with. maybe she'll come back someday.?!
who knows?
Time.
Yes ';time';..unfortunately that old saying ';time heals all wounds'; is true, annoying but true. Keeping busy, no matter what...work, watching movies or shows that uplift your mood, spending time with friends, walking...anything that takes your mind off of her. Even some counseling tp help you deal with how you are feeling...just so long as you are not alone and allowing yourself to brood and become depressed.
It is so hard breaking up with someone you love but I assure you if you just give someone else a chance to help mend your broken heart time does heal all wounds including heart ache. I'm speaking from experience. You are going to find someone so great you just have to be patient and do things that will keep your mind off of her.
This may not be for you, but I went out drinking and having sex with every woman I could. I got over my ex fairly quick.
Keep yourself very busy. Go out with friends, join a gym, take up a hobby, volunteer, do anything to occupy your mind.
have a cup of tea
time, time and a bit more time
dont expect to get over it over night. you'll probably feel this way for a while and that is normal.
You're a bit short on info....what caused the breakup if you love her so......
keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. good luck.
move on hun
its hurts, I know ,it will take time stay busy,try to meet someone
else and dont try to be friends with your ex it will only make it worse
Suck it up and move on,
It might take some time but you should just suck it up and move on life goes on and so should you.
like this '; we are done.. take your stuff and leave!! by the way its not you its me!';
LOL
By feeling in your own is the best medicine for out come of this type emotion .and time it self is the medicine.
just let go...
try to go out with some other friend's
keep u're self busy...
step
Every different relationship is unique....
Unfortunately, time is what heals these wounds... And it could take alot of time.... Try your best not to dwell on her and the good memories... Yes, you've experienced love and all the gifts that can come with it.. But if it's over, you are just beating yourself up emotionally day after day after day.
You know you won't forget her, and she will not forget you... But Life is a long and eventful journey and ultimately it ENDS at some point... You will love again..How do you deal with breaking up with someone you love after being together for almost 2 years?
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Simple. You deal with it. Take it from me, I loved a guy for 3yrs (first love). Don't wallow in your sorrow. Keep your mind busy with other things. Try to not think of her as much. It will be hard to do because everything will remind you of her but try. Time will dull the memory of her. One day when you think of her it will be only objectively.
Remember time heal all wounds
it will take a long time you can think of all the bad times you had with her that may help or see if you 2 can sit down and talk it out and get back true love is hard to find so go for it good luck to you
There's no quick fix to this situation. You're going to have to simply endure the long days and give it time. Even though you're feelings for her will more than likely take a long time to fade away, I suggest you 'get back out there' as you might find someone that makes you forget her name.
Yep, keep busy and widen your mind. The world is big with a lot to experience. Lovers come and go, look forward to what is next in your life.
keep yourself as busy as possible
IF YOU'VE BEEN WITH HER FOR 2 YEARS AND YOU STILL LOVE HER, THEN MAYBE IT'S WORTH ANOTHER SHOT AT YOU ALL BEING TOGETHER.
think of it as if your best friend left. it is life. life is not fair. just get it over with. maybe she'll come back someday.?!
who knows?
Time.
Yes ';time';..unfortunately that old saying ';time heals all wounds'; is true, annoying but true. Keeping busy, no matter what...work, watching movies or shows that uplift your mood, spending time with friends, walking...anything that takes your mind off of her. Even some counseling tp help you deal with how you are feeling...just so long as you are not alone and allowing yourself to brood and become depressed.
It is so hard breaking up with someone you love but I assure you if you just give someone else a chance to help mend your broken heart time does heal all wounds including heart ache. I'm speaking from experience. You are going to find someone so great you just have to be patient and do things that will keep your mind off of her.
This may not be for you, but I went out drinking and having sex with every woman I could. I got over my ex fairly quick.
Keep yourself very busy. Go out with friends, join a gym, take up a hobby, volunteer, do anything to occupy your mind.
have a cup of tea
time, time and a bit more time
dont expect to get over it over night. you'll probably feel this way for a while and that is normal.
You're a bit short on info....what caused the breakup if you love her so......
keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. good luck.
move on hun
its hurts, I know ,it will take time stay busy,try to meet someone
else and dont try to be friends with your ex it will only make it worse
Suck it up and move on,
It might take some time but you should just suck it up and move on life goes on and so should you.
like this '; we are done.. take your stuff and leave!! by the way its not you its me!';
LOL
By feeling in your own is the best medicine for out come of this type emotion .and time it self is the medicine.
just let go...
try to go out with some other friend's
keep u're self busy...
step
How do you know when it's time to break up with someone?
I mean, if you love someone, but you think it's not right for you, how do you know that it's time to break up? When does ';needing a bit of space'; become ';needing to end it';. And what if you're wrong and you regret it?
I have a constant sinking feeling. It came on suddenly. No arguing or anything I just suddenly started feeling like it.
We have a holiday in a week and a half.
Advice please?!?!?How do you know when it's time to break up with someone?
Needing space is different from needing to break up. Just because you are a couple and ';one'; doesn't mean you automatically become the same person. You can keep yourself in a relationship. Things about you and things about him were atttractive. Don't lose those.
Now if you feel you're not happy and he won't change or make adjustments, or you feel there is no future. . .then it is time to break up. It is possible you will regret it, but ti will still be right.
I had a girl, we lvoed each other so much and were great together. But our future plans were way too different. We had to end it. It was hard, but for the best.How do you know when it's time to break up with someone?
Holidays can be make or break so I think you should see how it goes there. It's so easy to end things but every relationship has it's ups and downs. It could be that other areas of your life are making you unhappy and it is affecting your relationship, so spending quality time with your partner may do you the world of good, on the other hand it could be that it is your relationship that isn't right, i think if you go on holiday with an open mind you will probably get your answer
Seems to me, you already know it's time when you posted this question. Talk to him how you feel. If it's a mistake, you'll just have to be prepared to live with it.
You have just answered the question,i f you need to ask it is time. Stop now, if you get back in the future make sure it is for the right reasons. (Not because you feel lost without your partner.
Good Luck whatever you do, relationships are hard.
maybe you need time away from this person. if you go back with each other then you know you meant to stay together.
but if not then you need to move on. when a relationship isn't comfortable or right those are signals that somethings wrong.
have a talk with this guy tell him how your feeling. maybe you two can work out this
It's time to break up, when the person has become emotionally unavailable and doesn't walk the talk. Needing space also means breaking up. It's better now than later.
Sounds to me like you already know the relationship is over. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you are meant to be together.
Well, if you really are in love with the person then knowing when to end the relationship can always be a bit of a nightmare question.
If you no longer are in love with the person then end it when its the best time for both of you, ideally. However, if it never seems to be the best time and you just want to get rid of the sod or sodess then send her a text message saying ';baby, we shared some great times, mostly when we were away from each other, but the time has come to mourn the passing of this shite relationship. Kregs, [InsertYourName]';
Edit: @dPURRb
If you have someone you dont care about then you obviously priortising your own life and showing scant disregard for someone your supposed to care enough about to be good to. If your selfish thoughts are more important than your partner than that partner doesnt need you and would do better off without you too.
';Regret is always a feeling everyone gets when ending a relationship with a potentially great person'; Perhaps you didnt do a great job in trying to preserve it. If you bothered to care more about him than your job or school than maybe you could of seen that, but i get that lot with female's, them thinking more so about themselves. Shame really, considering how great a catch i am.
Oh, sometimes when i look at myself in the mirror even i get the urge to touch myself!
When you question yourself, like you are now...thats the beginning of the end. Needing space is when you feel smothered by someone, or you have a busy life and you just need to focus more on school or a job more than you do a boyfriend. Needing to end it comes when the other person doesn't accept or understand that your space is important to you. Its not the end of the world. Regret is always a feeling everyone gets when ending a relationship woth a potentially great person. If you were meant to be with him, then you two WILL run into each other again in life. Me and my fiance broke up after 6 months and i thought it was the end. I broke up with him, and i regreted it. 4 months later, we met again and things were more calm and we both felt the same way we did when we first met. Now we have a daughter and are looking for marriage. SOmetimes it takes a lot longer than 4 months for this sort of thing to happen...but trust me, it does. I hope my advice was helpful. You know in your heart what you need to do.
when you look for excuses to be alone, cringe when they are on there way over, dont want to have sex with them the relationship is over
Go with your gut feeling if its wrong learn from it and keep on pushin
when being with them becomes a chore not a pleasure it's time to say bye bye
When you would rather be alone than to be with your significant other, then it's time to end it. If the thought of being alone for the rest of your life sounds better than being with him/her for the rest of your life, then you have your answer.
u see it coming depending on the relationship. i mean the attitude u give each other but for yr case, i think having feelings for someone or having that love for some one shouldn't just die like that. there cld be a reason why u feel this relationship is going no where but u still have a chance to bring it back to life. stop thinking negatively, find ways how u can ';sort it out';.
I have a constant sinking feeling. It came on suddenly. No arguing or anything I just suddenly started feeling like it.
We have a holiday in a week and a half.
Advice please?!?!?How do you know when it's time to break up with someone?
Needing space is different from needing to break up. Just because you are a couple and ';one'; doesn't mean you automatically become the same person. You can keep yourself in a relationship. Things about you and things about him were atttractive. Don't lose those.
Now if you feel you're not happy and he won't change or make adjustments, or you feel there is no future. . .then it is time to break up. It is possible you will regret it, but ti will still be right.
I had a girl, we lvoed each other so much and were great together. But our future plans were way too different. We had to end it. It was hard, but for the best.How do you know when it's time to break up with someone?
Holidays can be make or break so I think you should see how it goes there. It's so easy to end things but every relationship has it's ups and downs. It could be that other areas of your life are making you unhappy and it is affecting your relationship, so spending quality time with your partner may do you the world of good, on the other hand it could be that it is your relationship that isn't right, i think if you go on holiday with an open mind you will probably get your answer
Seems to me, you already know it's time when you posted this question. Talk to him how you feel. If it's a mistake, you'll just have to be prepared to live with it.
You have just answered the question,i f you need to ask it is time. Stop now, if you get back in the future make sure it is for the right reasons. (Not because you feel lost without your partner.
Good Luck whatever you do, relationships are hard.
maybe you need time away from this person. if you go back with each other then you know you meant to stay together.
but if not then you need to move on. when a relationship isn't comfortable or right those are signals that somethings wrong.
have a talk with this guy tell him how your feeling. maybe you two can work out this
It's time to break up, when the person has become emotionally unavailable and doesn't walk the talk. Needing space also means breaking up. It's better now than later.
Sounds to me like you already know the relationship is over. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you are meant to be together.
Well, if you really are in love with the person then knowing when to end the relationship can always be a bit of a nightmare question.
If you no longer are in love with the person then end it when its the best time for both of you, ideally. However, if it never seems to be the best time and you just want to get rid of the sod or sodess then send her a text message saying ';baby, we shared some great times, mostly when we were away from each other, but the time has come to mourn the passing of this shite relationship. Kregs, [InsertYourName]';
Edit: @dPURRb
If you have someone you dont care about then you obviously priortising your own life and showing scant disregard for someone your supposed to care enough about to be good to. If your selfish thoughts are more important than your partner than that partner doesnt need you and would do better off without you too.
';Regret is always a feeling everyone gets when ending a relationship with a potentially great person'; Perhaps you didnt do a great job in trying to preserve it. If you bothered to care more about him than your job or school than maybe you could of seen that, but i get that lot with female's, them thinking more so about themselves. Shame really, considering how great a catch i am.
Oh, sometimes when i look at myself in the mirror even i get the urge to touch myself!
When you question yourself, like you are now...thats the beginning of the end. Needing space is when you feel smothered by someone, or you have a busy life and you just need to focus more on school or a job more than you do a boyfriend. Needing to end it comes when the other person doesn't accept or understand that your space is important to you. Its not the end of the world. Regret is always a feeling everyone gets when ending a relationship woth a potentially great person. If you were meant to be with him, then you two WILL run into each other again in life. Me and my fiance broke up after 6 months and i thought it was the end. I broke up with him, and i regreted it. 4 months later, we met again and things were more calm and we both felt the same way we did when we first met. Now we have a daughter and are looking for marriage. SOmetimes it takes a lot longer than 4 months for this sort of thing to happen...but trust me, it does. I hope my advice was helpful. You know in your heart what you need to do.
when you look for excuses to be alone, cringe when they are on there way over, dont want to have sex with them the relationship is over
Go with your gut feeling if its wrong learn from it and keep on pushin
when being with them becomes a chore not a pleasure it's time to say bye bye
When you would rather be alone than to be with your significant other, then it's time to end it. If the thought of being alone for the rest of your life sounds better than being with him/her for the rest of your life, then you have your answer.
u see it coming depending on the relationship. i mean the attitude u give each other but for yr case, i think having feelings for someone or having that love for some one shouldn't just die like that. there cld be a reason why u feel this relationship is going no where but u still have a chance to bring it back to life. stop thinking negatively, find ways how u can ';sort it out';.
How can you get over a break up with someone that you loved so much after they broke your heart?
I want to know for future referencesHow can you get over a break up with someone that you loved so much after they broke your heart?
The only person who ever broke my heart ... Is now my husband ( of 8 years)... but you can get over it if you allow yourself to.How can you get over a break up with someone that you loved so much after they broke your heart?
I WAS ABOUT TO ASK YOU THE SAME THING
The only person who ever broke my heart ... Is now my husband ( of 8 years)... but you can get over it if you allow yourself to.How can you get over a break up with someone that you loved so much after they broke your heart?
I WAS ABOUT TO ASK YOU THE SAME THING
How to break up with someone who really loves you?
I got together with this person about 6 months ago and when we first started dating, i was really in love but i had had past relationships with other people and still thought about them. now the guy i'm dating knows about the other people, and keeps pressuring me not to talk to them and gets really cold when i talk about my other friends, and i hate it, but he loves me a lot and i'd find it hard to break up because he'd pretend everything is okay and i would feel really guilty. however, i'm probably going to start a relationship with someone else soon so i need to break it off. can someone tell me a good way to do this???How to break up with someone who really loves you?
Breaking up is not easy or nice, thats why no one likes to do it
It's always going to hurt but you need to do it
Staying in a relationship with someone just because they love you is not right
Just tell him that you feel the relationship has run its course, the way he has been acting recently has made you feel uncomfortable and that you can not speak or rely on him anymore. That you have been thinking about it for a long time and don't let him pursuade you otherwise.
Yes you will feel guilty but think of how happy you will be once you are out of the relationship
He will get hurt but everyone gets hurt and he will take it as experience and get over it
Good luckHow to break up with someone who really loves you?
Try to sit on 2 chairs at the same time (for some time). Date both of those boys till the situation clears up. Don`t break up so fast and easily. What if turns out this new `relationship` sucks and that boy is worse than this one whom are you with right now. And eventually, you will have to get married one day, so it is best solution for a woman to do it with someone who really loves her.
Breaking up is not easy or nice, thats why no one likes to do it
It's always going to hurt but you need to do it
Staying in a relationship with someone just because they love you is not right
Just tell him that you feel the relationship has run its course, the way he has been acting recently has made you feel uncomfortable and that you can not speak or rely on him anymore. That you have been thinking about it for a long time and don't let him pursuade you otherwise.
Yes you will feel guilty but think of how happy you will be once you are out of the relationship
He will get hurt but everyone gets hurt and he will take it as experience and get over it
Good luckHow to break up with someone who really loves you?
Try to sit on 2 chairs at the same time (for some time). Date both of those boys till the situation clears up. Don`t break up so fast and easily. What if turns out this new `relationship` sucks and that boy is worse than this one whom are you with right now. And eventually, you will have to get married one day, so it is best solution for a woman to do it with someone who really loves her.
Have you ever broken up with someone you were in love with?
Because it just wasn't working? Did you make a mistake? Do you ever regret it? Better yet, how did you know that it was the right thing to do?Have you ever broken up with someone you were in love with?
I did, I broke up with her because someone told me she saw her with some guy going into the movie theater. Jealousy took over me. I felt like it was the right thing at the moment, we went out for 1 year. I do still regret it, I broke up with her and we stopped dating for 4 months, she dated some guy. I talked to her again and fortunately she still loved me. I am very attractive and dated 4 different girls, no one could match the feelings i had for her. BIG MISTAKE, now i have her back and i can be happy with the person I love.Have you ever broken up with someone you were in love with?
yes, because he was younger than me, lived in another town and had a good job and I didn't want him to give it up to move closer and not get paid as well. Also knew that I was not the one to make him happy in the long run. I told him to find someone closer to his age that he could eventually have a family with. I regretted it at first and still miss him sometimes, still hope he finds happiness. I don't think it was a mistake, though.
3x %26amp; they were the right decision-
%26amp; I knew it was the right thing to do because I took a ';time out'; %26amp; objectively looked at my situation %26amp; realized their damaging behaviors... %26amp; you cant be w/ someone who is detrimental %26amp; you cant change them, so, even though you love them you have to go. you have to love yourself enough to take care of yourself %26amp; give yourself what you deserve. A good way to look at it is this: if you were making the decision for your own daughter what would you do? What would you want for her %26amp; what would you tell her to stay away from? then just do that for yourself-
Yes, I still love her but know it was the right decision because we just grew into to different people, and seemed like the more time that went by the less we had in common. Still talk to her from time to time and met her new BF and am honestly happy for both of them, no jealously at all. Crazy thing is at 2yrs I absolutely knew she was the one, and at 4yrs I absolutely knew she wasn't.
i broke up with this boy i dated for almost 4 years..and i regret it every time i see him....i broke up with him over a lie his ex told me....i would do anything to get him back but it was in the past so its to late
well i dumped him because he was sleeping with someone else. i loved him but i had to end it. it wasn't a mistake on my behalf. i know i did the right thing. i miss him heaps sometimes but i know it's for the best.
Yes, he was ignoring me. Not calling me nor answering my call. Even not replying my messages.
I broke up a fight once.heart rate monitor red hair
I did, I broke up with her because someone told me she saw her with some guy going into the movie theater. Jealousy took over me. I felt like it was the right thing at the moment, we went out for 1 year. I do still regret it, I broke up with her and we stopped dating for 4 months, she dated some guy. I talked to her again and fortunately she still loved me. I am very attractive and dated 4 different girls, no one could match the feelings i had for her. BIG MISTAKE, now i have her back and i can be happy with the person I love.Have you ever broken up with someone you were in love with?
yes, because he was younger than me, lived in another town and had a good job and I didn't want him to give it up to move closer and not get paid as well. Also knew that I was not the one to make him happy in the long run. I told him to find someone closer to his age that he could eventually have a family with. I regretted it at first and still miss him sometimes, still hope he finds happiness. I don't think it was a mistake, though.
3x %26amp; they were the right decision-
%26amp; I knew it was the right thing to do because I took a ';time out'; %26amp; objectively looked at my situation %26amp; realized their damaging behaviors... %26amp; you cant be w/ someone who is detrimental %26amp; you cant change them, so, even though you love them you have to go. you have to love yourself enough to take care of yourself %26amp; give yourself what you deserve. A good way to look at it is this: if you were making the decision for your own daughter what would you do? What would you want for her %26amp; what would you tell her to stay away from? then just do that for yourself-
Yes, I still love her but know it was the right decision because we just grew into to different people, and seemed like the more time that went by the less we had in common. Still talk to her from time to time and met her new BF and am honestly happy for both of them, no jealously at all. Crazy thing is at 2yrs I absolutely knew she was the one, and at 4yrs I absolutely knew she wasn't.
i broke up with this boy i dated for almost 4 years..and i regret it every time i see him....i broke up with him over a lie his ex told me....i would do anything to get him back but it was in the past so its to late
well i dumped him because he was sleeping with someone else. i loved him but i had to end it. it wasn't a mistake on my behalf. i know i did the right thing. i miss him heaps sometimes but i know it's for the best.
Yes, he was ignoring me. Not calling me nor answering my call. Even not replying my messages.
I broke up a fight once.
Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???
I love my boyfriend more than I have loved anybody EVER. Most of our relationship has been really good, in spite of many hard ups and downs. He does not seem to want to help our relationship to progress although he says he does. We live together and always talk about our future and what we want, but his actions say he just wants to keep things just as they are, forever or until I get fed up. We have been fighting a lot lately and I am starting to feel like I am wasting my time with him, but the thought of breaking up with him kills me.
Is there any advice you can give me regarding what I should do or any statements you can make that will give me some perspective?Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???
Don't give him an ultimatum but sit him down and have a very serious conversation with him about what you want and need for your life in order to accomplish your goals, and about what direction you want your life to go in. If he knows you are serious, either he will step up or you have your answer and you need to leave and find you somebody that wants to help you achieve your goals in life and not impede them. Don't depend on a man or anyone to make you happy, but take steps to get what you want out of life. And if a man loves you, he will step up if he thinks he is about to lose you. Don't play at being married to a man when there is no commitment.Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???
try to imagine different situations... it's what i do.
like... if you could meet someone new EXACTLY like your boyfriend, would it interest you at all? if not you probably just fear the IDEA of change.
try to figure out if you love him or the IDEA of him. if you started all over a met him again tomorrow, would you do it over? what would you do differently? could you see yourself with him forever? if not it might be time to get out before you fully reject the idea of ever having another relationship.
Is there any advice you can give me regarding what I should do or any statements you can make that will give me some perspective?Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???
Don't give him an ultimatum but sit him down and have a very serious conversation with him about what you want and need for your life in order to accomplish your goals, and about what direction you want your life to go in. If he knows you are serious, either he will step up or you have your answer and you need to leave and find you somebody that wants to help you achieve your goals in life and not impede them. Don't depend on a man or anyone to make you happy, but take steps to get what you want out of life. And if a man loves you, he will step up if he thinks he is about to lose you. Don't play at being married to a man when there is no commitment.Any advice on how do decide if you are in love with someone, afraid to break up or a little of both???
try to imagine different situations... it's what i do.
like... if you could meet someone new EXACTLY like your boyfriend, would it interest you at all? if not you probably just fear the IDEA of change.
try to figure out if you love him or the IDEA of him. if you started all over a met him again tomorrow, would you do it over? what would you do differently? could you see yourself with him forever? if not it might be time to get out before you fully reject the idea of ever having another relationship.
How to deal with breaking up wit someone you love?
we were going out 6 months and we broke up last saturday, it hurts when i knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with this person, i helped her out by lettin her move in when she got kicked out her house, supporting her(food, new clothes,glasses,getting here hair done) and she leaves me for the club, she wants to do her own thing and not be tied down but while i was doing all that **** for her she was tellin me she loved me, she would never leave me and it jus seemed like she was in love too. i dont know what to do and i was hopin someone could give me some advice? thank uHow to deal with breaking up wit someone you love?
You have to kind of look to the bright side. In this case, aren't you glad you found out sooner rather than later? It won't make it hurt any less, but what you have to look for is something to help you accept the way it turned out.
Relationships are just plain hard and to be honest, more hurtful sometimes than it's worth. It takes both people putting everything they have into making it work, and particularly when you know that you have did everything you can, it just isn't enough if the other person can't or won't.
Always do everything you can to treat the other person with respect, kindness, and love. If it doesn't work out, you'll at least be able to look at yourself in the mirror. It's more than what you can say for your girlfriend.
Good luck. I hope everything works out the best for you.
You have to kind of look to the bright side. In this case, aren't you glad you found out sooner rather than later? It won't make it hurt any less, but what you have to look for is something to help you accept the way it turned out.
Relationships are just plain hard and to be honest, more hurtful sometimes than it's worth. It takes both people putting everything they have into making it work, and particularly when you know that you have did everything you can, it just isn't enough if the other person can't or won't.
Always do everything you can to treat the other person with respect, kindness, and love. If it doesn't work out, you'll at least be able to look at yourself in the mirror. It's more than what you can say for your girlfriend.
Good luck. I hope everything works out the best for you.
How do you break up with someone who loves you and thinks that you are their soul mate?
I've always loved him, and I still do, but I just feel that it's more of a brotherly love. I feel like I'm dating my older brother. We did break up before, but that was because he was moving. He isn't going to move anymore, so I asked him out again. But I thought I would feel happy, instead I felt confused. Then I thought about it, and found that I didn't really feel that kind of passion anymore. But I'm the one that asked him out this time, and I feel like I would be going back on my word if I told him I didn't want to go out with him anymore. He loves me; I'm his longest lasting girlfriend, and he's really attached to me. He seems so happy that I'm going to go out with him again, and all my friends think I'm a huge ***** for not loving him the way I should. My parents think that going out with him again is a bad idea, because they know how I feel. I don't know what to do! I just can't go out with him, but I really don't want to hurt his feelings! I just don't like him that way, and I feel like a *****.How do you break up with someone who loves you and thinks that you are their soul mate?
I am going through almost the same thing.. so i'm going out with this guy and we hung out a ton before we started going out and we talked alll the time and i really really liked him and then after he got to know me more, he liked me too and asked me out... we've gone out for almost 2 monthes now (in 8th grade of course thats ';pretty good';) or whatever. Everything was good and then... he made out with me... I didnt feel anything. He's really attached to me.. but I'm just not interested any more. No spark...he's just a friend. At least for my part of the relationship, everything is just awkward now. I've been putting off and avoiding breakup.. but I know its gotta happen sooner better than later. Anyone reccomend trying to make HIM be the one to break up with me? I dont want to feel like a ***** either but I cant wait to be single again so I can be friends and flirt with ALL of the guys; and not feel trapped to someone i'm not attracted to anymore.How do you break up with someone who loves you and thinks that you are their soul mate?
Here is a really great article on how to break up with someone gently due to irreconcilable differences:
http://www.ehow.com/how_4848269_break-up鈥?/a>
I am going through almost the same thing.. so i'm going out with this guy and we hung out a ton before we started going out and we talked alll the time and i really really liked him and then after he got to know me more, he liked me too and asked me out... we've gone out for almost 2 monthes now (in 8th grade of course thats ';pretty good';) or whatever. Everything was good and then... he made out with me... I didnt feel anything. He's really attached to me.. but I'm just not interested any more. No spark...he's just a friend. At least for my part of the relationship, everything is just awkward now. I've been putting off and avoiding breakup.. but I know its gotta happen sooner better than later. Anyone reccomend trying to make HIM be the one to break up with me? I dont want to feel like a ***** either but I cant wait to be single again so I can be friends and flirt with ALL of the guys; and not feel trapped to someone i'm not attracted to anymore.How do you break up with someone who loves you and thinks that you are their soul mate?
Here is a really great article on how to break up with someone gently due to irreconcilable differences:
http://www.ehow.com/how_4848269_break-up鈥?/a>
Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
I'm stuck in a rough spot right now. I love my boyfriend but I don't think he's the one for me. We are both 19 and he's sure that I'm the one for him but I'm just not sure if he is for me. I don't want to settle yet. I'm young and want to be able to go out and do things. I feel like I haven't gotten to do all the things I've wanted and that I can't do them if I'm dating him. It's not that he stifles me, I just think we're too comfortable in our relationship, ugh, it's hard to explain. I really do love him, a lot but I'm not ready to settle down yet (We've been dating for 14 months). I think it's possible too that if we broke up that we may one day end up together again (if we're meant to be together). I don't want to lose his friendship either though I know I might. He's been a big part of my life for years (we were friends for years before we started dating).
So, basically, how should I break up with him? I know I'm going to hurt him no matter how I do it but any suggestions? Ever been through something similar? Any suggestions of how to become friends later on? How'd you deal with it?
Anything would be helpful. Thank you!Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
the best thing to do is to be honest with him -
now i'll be honest with you - don't give him the ';Let's be friends'; line -
it just doesn't work - you may really want that but he needs to remove himself from your life for a while - at some point down the line it will be okay to befriend him againAnyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
It does really hurt a guy when the girl leaves him. When I was very
young I broke up with a guy that wanted to marry me. It hurt him very
much. I was too young to understand how much it hurt him at the time. I know too tho that I would not have been the right one for him...this is in hind sight. At my mother's funeral several years later
he came to pay his respects. He told me that he never truly got over losing me. Be gentle with this person. Maybe do things that would cause him to break it off, if that is possible? It might salvage his pride and let him move on. Good luck.
i think that only you know, what you want to do,i mean yeah you will receive a lot of advice from different people but the right choice will come from you,, heres what i think....
you should talk to him, tell him what you feel, and just tell him everything, then after that let him talk, and from there on..you have to give time to see if you ever are meant to be
Wow! My little sister has been going through the very same. She met her bf when she was 14 or 15. He was her first. They were together for 3.5 years but he was suffocating her though (a little). She loved him and felt that she wanted to eventually be with him, she just needed to live life on her own for a while. She finally needed to end it but was afraid to tell him for the same reasons as you. So I suggested that she sit down and write him a letter explaining everything that she felt and meet him for coffee to give it to him to read while she sat there. That way, she was able to get everything out clearly and concisely without her ';flow'; and train of thought being interrupted, but sat there so that it was not about being chicken and they could talk about it immediately.
He was really angry with her for a few months. She tried calling him every so often to see if he would hang out. He always said no. It crushed her, but I told her that he will need some time. And he did. They were apart for a year and a half but after about 6 months they sort of started to hang out again (they had a lot of mutual friends) and eventually got back together a year or so later. She needed to get somethings out of her system and she did.
If you do this, it's important that you make sure he understands that your love for him hasn't changed you just need to spread your wings and let them dry. Let him know that if it doesn't happen now and you end up staying together, you run the risk of waking up one day and resenting him and you don't want that. Honestly, what you 2 have is special and rare. If it's meant to be, it will happen -no matter what. Just be respectful to him and yourself while you are split up (not saying you would but don't hook up with his friends). Oh, and DON'T go doing stupid stuff to get him to leave you. That's ridiculous! Do that and you'll lose him forever -for sure! Be honest -always. If people can't handle the truth that is their problem, not yours.
Good luck!
my sister and her boyfriend dated for about 5 years they lived eachother but they didnt know if there was anything else out there and wanted to have fun, and decided they need to meet other ppl and take a while away from eachother and hopefully will reaslize if they were ment to be or not, a year later they had both learned theres no one else out there for them that they could love more,
maybe sujest it? not sure.
DO NOT BREAK UP with him!!!!!!!
If you love him don't do that.
Talk to him, tell him what's the problem and see if you can sort it out. Maybe he's feeling the same.
Give him a chance.
So, basically, how should I break up with him? I know I'm going to hurt him no matter how I do it but any suggestions? Ever been through something similar? Any suggestions of how to become friends later on? How'd you deal with it?
Anything would be helpful. Thank you!Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
the best thing to do is to be honest with him -
now i'll be honest with you - don't give him the ';Let's be friends'; line -
it just doesn't work - you may really want that but he needs to remove himself from your life for a while - at some point down the line it will be okay to befriend him againAnyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
It does really hurt a guy when the girl leaves him. When I was very
young I broke up with a guy that wanted to marry me. It hurt him very
much. I was too young to understand how much it hurt him at the time. I know too tho that I would not have been the right one for him...this is in hind sight. At my mother's funeral several years later
he came to pay his respects. He told me that he never truly got over losing me. Be gentle with this person. Maybe do things that would cause him to break it off, if that is possible? It might salvage his pride and let him move on. Good luck.
i think that only you know, what you want to do,i mean yeah you will receive a lot of advice from different people but the right choice will come from you,, heres what i think....
you should talk to him, tell him what you feel, and just tell him everything, then after that let him talk, and from there on..you have to give time to see if you ever are meant to be
Wow! My little sister has been going through the very same. She met her bf when she was 14 or 15. He was her first. They were together for 3.5 years but he was suffocating her though (a little). She loved him and felt that she wanted to eventually be with him, she just needed to live life on her own for a while. She finally needed to end it but was afraid to tell him for the same reasons as you. So I suggested that she sit down and write him a letter explaining everything that she felt and meet him for coffee to give it to him to read while she sat there. That way, she was able to get everything out clearly and concisely without her ';flow'; and train of thought being interrupted, but sat there so that it was not about being chicken and they could talk about it immediately.
He was really angry with her for a few months. She tried calling him every so often to see if he would hang out. He always said no. It crushed her, but I told her that he will need some time. And he did. They were apart for a year and a half but after about 6 months they sort of started to hang out again (they had a lot of mutual friends) and eventually got back together a year or so later. She needed to get somethings out of her system and she did.
If you do this, it's important that you make sure he understands that your love for him hasn't changed you just need to spread your wings and let them dry. Let him know that if it doesn't happen now and you end up staying together, you run the risk of waking up one day and resenting him and you don't want that. Honestly, what you 2 have is special and rare. If it's meant to be, it will happen -no matter what. Just be respectful to him and yourself while you are split up (not saying you would but don't hook up with his friends). Oh, and DON'T go doing stupid stuff to get him to leave you. That's ridiculous! Do that and you'll lose him forever -for sure! Be honest -always. If people can't handle the truth that is their problem, not yours.
Good luck!
my sister and her boyfriend dated for about 5 years they lived eachother but they didnt know if there was anything else out there and wanted to have fun, and decided they need to meet other ppl and take a while away from eachother and hopefully will reaslize if they were ment to be or not, a year later they had both learned theres no one else out there for them that they could love more,
maybe sujest it? not sure.
DO NOT BREAK UP with him!!!!!!!
If you love him don't do that.
Talk to him, tell him what's the problem and see if you can sort it out. Maybe he's feeling the same.
Give him a chance.
Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
How do you get over it? Do you think that when you break up with someone you love that you will eventually get back together? Also if you really love this person would it be hard to get into another relationship? By the way this was a 4 year relationship.
Just curious how men deal with all this compared to women. I am going through a tough time right now.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
Its different for all men. For most men separating isnt the final event like it seems to be for women. It's not until the woman finds someone else that possibility or reunion is closed down for men and thats when the greiving process begins for a man. Its a case of coming to terms with the fact that the familar comfort zone is no longer an option.
Some men can lose the plot at this point and become problematic.
I've just ended a four year relationship and while I would like to get some answers, the whole truth, the bottom line is that I may not like the truth or still wouldnt et the truth or wouldnt believe it if I got it so it makes no difference and its better to uphold my self respect by not letting her know she still has an emotional hold on me.
For men its difficult to come to terms with the fact that women can move on so quickly. Feels like you werent important the way women can put it behind them in seemingly no time at all. For men the process can takes months. IF you really love someone it shouldnt be easy to replace them. If a woman finds someone else quickly it tends to hurt more and thats when feelings like envy, hate and loss are most prominent. It feels like an injustice has been done to the memory of the relationship. And generally men take it harder because a mans ego tends to stand on the strength of his relationship. Take away the relationship and a man generally feels like he has nothing.
Women usually have better support mechanisms from friends since women tend to be better at empthy whereas a man has to deal with things alone and tends to feel like their suffering is unique and they are alone in it. Sad eh.
But this is all rather sweeping. It really does depend on the people involved. But letting go of routine and familiarity is hard for everyone. and no matter how bad a relationship is for us we always hope there is the possibility of going back on some level. It's only natural.
Consider the word divorce. It isnt just a word. its a process. Its about forcing yourself not to care about someone anymore and coming to terms with the fact you are not in their life. That goes against your basic instincts so it s a process of self discipline. Some are good at it, others are not. All depends on the circumstances of the split. I didn't want to break up. I'd invested so much time and energy into it that I couldnt let go even though I knew it was over and that it wasnt healthy for either of us. It took considerable effort not to try and undo what was done when we split. Without the support I had I may well have gone back for another go and degraded myself.
Ultimately its about facing up to harsh realities and admitting truths we'd rather not. It means admitting things about them and things about ourselves and having the self respect to stand by our decisions.
Good luck to you.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
When you start to feel maybe there is some reason to try to get back with her, just remember the reasons you broke up with her. These reasons are still valid. Remember all the times she made you so mad you wanted to pull your hair out. Realize the reason she drove you crazy was because she really did not care about you or your feelings. Remember how selfish and hateful she could be. Then accept you made a good decision by dumping her.
You must realize we have the capacity to love and love again and again. She doesn't want you so it hurts in the solar plexus. In time, you will trust a few others, and will love again. Seems it might be her loss.
read:
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
Why would a man break up with a woman he cares about or even loves ?
Something here does not add up.
You are reaching for any slight hint of hope that he will come back - forget it. It is not easy - but false hope will make it more difficult.
if you love her tooo much you don't get over it.....but you can get your mind off it........just hang with some friends
It happens to us quite often and we get back also.
Just curious how men deal with all this compared to women. I am going through a tough time right now.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
Its different for all men. For most men separating isnt the final event like it seems to be for women. It's not until the woman finds someone else that possibility or reunion is closed down for men and thats when the greiving process begins for a man. Its a case of coming to terms with the fact that the familar comfort zone is no longer an option.
Some men can lose the plot at this point and become problematic.
I've just ended a four year relationship and while I would like to get some answers, the whole truth, the bottom line is that I may not like the truth or still wouldnt et the truth or wouldnt believe it if I got it so it makes no difference and its better to uphold my self respect by not letting her know she still has an emotional hold on me.
For men its difficult to come to terms with the fact that women can move on so quickly. Feels like you werent important the way women can put it behind them in seemingly no time at all. For men the process can takes months. IF you really love someone it shouldnt be easy to replace them. If a woman finds someone else quickly it tends to hurt more and thats when feelings like envy, hate and loss are most prominent. It feels like an injustice has been done to the memory of the relationship. And generally men take it harder because a mans ego tends to stand on the strength of his relationship. Take away the relationship and a man generally feels like he has nothing.
Women usually have better support mechanisms from friends since women tend to be better at empthy whereas a man has to deal with things alone and tends to feel like their suffering is unique and they are alone in it. Sad eh.
But this is all rather sweeping. It really does depend on the people involved. But letting go of routine and familiarity is hard for everyone. and no matter how bad a relationship is for us we always hope there is the possibility of going back on some level. It's only natural.
Consider the word divorce. It isnt just a word. its a process. Its about forcing yourself not to care about someone anymore and coming to terms with the fact you are not in their life. That goes against your basic instincts so it s a process of self discipline. Some are good at it, others are not. All depends on the circumstances of the split. I didn't want to break up. I'd invested so much time and energy into it that I couldnt let go even though I knew it was over and that it wasnt healthy for either of us. It took considerable effort not to try and undo what was done when we split. Without the support I had I may well have gone back for another go and degraded myself.
Ultimately its about facing up to harsh realities and admitting truths we'd rather not. It means admitting things about them and things about ourselves and having the self respect to stand by our decisions.
Good luck to you.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
When you start to feel maybe there is some reason to try to get back with her, just remember the reasons you broke up with her. These reasons are still valid. Remember all the times she made you so mad you wanted to pull your hair out. Realize the reason she drove you crazy was because she really did not care about you or your feelings. Remember how selfish and hateful she could be. Then accept you made a good decision by dumping her.
You must realize we have the capacity to love and love again and again. She doesn't want you so it hurts in the solar plexus. In time, you will trust a few others, and will love again. Seems it might be her loss.
read:
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
Why would a man break up with a woman he cares about or even loves ?
Something here does not add up.
You are reaching for any slight hint of hope that he will come back - forget it. It is not easy - but false hope will make it more difficult.
if you love her tooo much you don't get over it.....but you can get your mind off it........just hang with some friends
It happens to us quite often and we get back also.
Breaking up with someone you love...?
I'm 16 and I've been with this guy(16) for 3 years and I love him deeply and i know he loves me but I've been thinking lately about how boring our relationship has gotten and how he can be so imiture and that I'd just like something diffrent for awhile. I'd hate to hurt him because he mean the world to me but I'm in high school and I really want to date other people and have fun and be a kid. (Plus theres a senior in one of my classes thats really into me and I really think is a neat and fun guy but only has 1 semester left before graduation.) I tried breaking up but he ended up in tears begging me not to saying he do anything and that I was his whole world. I don't know what to do, don't get me wrong I don't want to breakup becuz of the senior I just want a break from this long term relationship? what do you think?Breaking up with someone you love...?
your version of love is different than mine..Breaking up with someone you love...?
how are you deeply in love with him,and yet, want to break up because this relationship is ';boring?'; leave if you want,but you say he's immature? love isnt perfect. i really dont know wut to tell you on this one. follow your heart,i guess.
omg thats what happened to me.....i broke up with the guy and i told him that i want to meet other people.....he cried but he got over it ....now i go with a new guy and i feel so unconfortable...i think i still love my ex and everything is so complicated cuz i feel so confused....trust if u break up with him ur gonna feel weird cuz u got used to him...i meann u have been with him 3 years.....but what ever u do make sure its the right thing...nad if u break up with him do it nicely and try not to make him feel bad...best wishes
You have no choice but to crush him. I hate to sound so mean, but there it is.
The reason he's immature is because obviously, at 16, no one is mature. So he can't handle the break-up of a long-term relationship because he hasn't had to yet.
After all, think about what's going to happen with you and the senior when he goes off to college and has to break up with you because he wants to be a kid and date all those women in college, while you're still a junior in high school? That's what your boyfriend is about to deal with.
But you know in your heart that he shouldn't have to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want him anymore than you should be in a relationship you don't like.
So put him down quick. Remember, snapping off a Band-Aid always hurts less then slowly peeling it away.
Good luck!
You can't break up with yourself. You're in it for life... Oh, you mean him? Lol. That's what you call love??? yeah sure. Well figure it this way. If he's a decent guy you'll be doing him a favor to rid him of you.
Breaking up is always tricky, but in your position, I'd say it's better you do It.You are in high school, and the guy is not your husband or anything,is he? Let him go. I'd say go out with your classmate,see if you can build something up with him.
Plus, you have been with this guy for 3 years?!! Good Lord!! You need some fun and thrill, move on!!!!!!!!!!heart rate monitor red hair
your version of love is different than mine..Breaking up with someone you love...?
how are you deeply in love with him,and yet, want to break up because this relationship is ';boring?'; leave if you want,but you say he's immature? love isnt perfect. i really dont know wut to tell you on this one. follow your heart,i guess.
omg thats what happened to me.....i broke up with the guy and i told him that i want to meet other people.....he cried but he got over it ....now i go with a new guy and i feel so unconfortable...i think i still love my ex and everything is so complicated cuz i feel so confused....trust if u break up with him ur gonna feel weird cuz u got used to him...i meann u have been with him 3 years.....but what ever u do make sure its the right thing...nad if u break up with him do it nicely and try not to make him feel bad...best wishes
You have no choice but to crush him. I hate to sound so mean, but there it is.
The reason he's immature is because obviously, at 16, no one is mature. So he can't handle the break-up of a long-term relationship because he hasn't had to yet.
After all, think about what's going to happen with you and the senior when he goes off to college and has to break up with you because he wants to be a kid and date all those women in college, while you're still a junior in high school? That's what your boyfriend is about to deal with.
But you know in your heart that he shouldn't have to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want him anymore than you should be in a relationship you don't like.
So put him down quick. Remember, snapping off a Band-Aid always hurts less then slowly peeling it away.
Good luck!
You can't break up with yourself. You're in it for life... Oh, you mean him? Lol. That's what you call love??? yeah sure. Well figure it this way. If he's a decent guy you'll be doing him a favor to rid him of you.
Breaking up is always tricky, but in your position, I'd say it's better you do It.You are in high school, and the guy is not your husband or anything,is he? Let him go. I'd say go out with your classmate,see if you can build something up with him.
Plus, you have been with this guy for 3 years?!! Good Lord!! You need some fun and thrill, move on!!!!!!!!!!
How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
I found out the truth and she is not cheating on me anymore, but I can not stand the pain I even fell in depression for this. I planing to brake up with her, but I'm afraid to kill my self lam unable to forgive =(How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
I would break up with her just because I would not be able to live without feeling suspicious of her she had a night out with girl friends. Even if she is not cheating now, you never know when she might start again. btw, I hope you meant kill myself in a figurative way and you are not actully planning to do that.. ppl who cheat on you are not worth you loosing your life over.How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
I would break up with her just because I would not be able to live without feeling suspicious of her she had a night out with girl friends. Even if she is not cheating now, you never know when she might start again. btw, I hope you meant kill myself in a figurative way and you are not actully planning to do that.. ppl who cheat on you are not worth you loosing your life over.How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
I'm stuck in a rough spot right now. I love my boyfriend but I don't think he's the one for me. We are both 19 and he's sure that I'm the one for him but I'm just not sure if he is for me. I don't want to settle yet. I'm young and want to be able to go out and do things. I feel like I haven't gotten to do all the things I've wanted and that I can't do them if I'm dating him. It's not that he stifles me, I just think we're too comfortable in our relationship, ugh, it's hard to explain. I really do love him, a lot but I'm not ready to settle down yet (We've been dating for 14 months). I think it's possible too that if we broke up that we may one day end up together again (if we're meant to be together). I don't want to lose his friendship either though I know I might. He's been a big part of my life for years (we were friends for years before we started dating).
So, basically, how should I break up with him? I know I'm going to hurt him no matter how I do it but any suggestions? Ever been through something similar? Any suggestions of how to become friends later on? How'd you deal with it?
Anything would be helpful. Thank you!Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
DO NOT BREAK UP with him!!!!!!!
If you love him don't do that.
Talk to him, tell him what's the problem and see if you can sort it out. Maybe he's feeling the same.
Give him a chance.Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
the best thing to do is to be honest with him -
now i'll be honest with you - don't give him the ';Let's be friends'; line -
it just doesn't work - you may really want that but he needs to remove himself from your life for a while - at some point down the line it will be okay to befriend him again
my sister and her boyfriend dated for about 5 years they lived eachother but they didnt know if there was anything else out there and wanted to have fun, and decided they need to meet other ppl and take a while away from eachother and hopefully will reaslize if they were ment to be or not, a year later they had both learned theres no one else out there for them that they could love more,
maybe sujest it? not sure.
Wow! My little sister has been going through the very same. She met her bf when she was 14 or 15. He was her first. They were together for 3.5 years but he was suffocating her though (a little). She loved him and felt that she wanted to eventually be with him, she just needed to live life on her own for a while. She finally needed to end it but was afraid to tell him for the same reasons as you. So I suggested that she sit down and write him a letter explaining everything that she felt and meet him for coffee to give it to him to read while she sat there. That way, she was able to get everything out clearly and concisely without her ';flow'; and train of thought being interrupted, but sat there so that it was not about being chicken and they could talk about it immediately.
He was really angry with her for a few months. She tried calling him every so often to see if he would hang out. He always said no. It crushed her, but I told her that he will need some time. And he did. They were apart for a year and a half but after about 6 months they sort of started to hang out again (they had a lot of mutual friends) and eventually got back together a year or so later. She needed to get somethings out of her system and she did.
If you do this, it's important that you make sure he understands that your love for him hasn't changed you just need to spread your wings and let them dry. Let him know that if it doesn't happen now and you end up staying together, you run the risk of waking up one day and resenting him and you don't want that. Honestly, what you 2 have is special and rare. If it's meant to be, it will happen -no matter what. Just be respectful to him and yourself while you are split up (not saying you would but don't hook up with his friends). Oh, and DON'T go doing stupid stuff to get him to leave you. That's ridiculous! Do that and you'll lose him forever -for sure! Be honest -always. If people can't handle the truth that is their problem, not yours.
Good luck!
It does really hurt a guy when the girl leaves him. When I was very
young I broke up with a guy that wanted to marry me. It hurt him very
much. I was too young to understand how much it hurt him at the time. I know too tho that I would not have been the right one for him...this is in hind sight. At my mother's funeral several years later
he came to pay his respects. He told me that he never truly got over losing me. Be gentle with this person. Maybe do things that would cause him to break it off, if that is possible? It might salvage his pride and let him move on. Good luck.
i think that only you know, what you want to do,i mean yeah you will receive a lot of advice from different people but the right choice will come from you,, heres what i think....
you should talk to him, tell him what you feel, and just tell him everything, then after that let him talk, and from there on..you have to give time to see if you ever are meant to be
So, basically, how should I break up with him? I know I'm going to hurt him no matter how I do it but any suggestions? Ever been through something similar? Any suggestions of how to become friends later on? How'd you deal with it?
Anything would be helpful. Thank you!Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
DO NOT BREAK UP with him!!!!!!!
If you love him don't do that.
Talk to him, tell him what's the problem and see if you can sort it out. Maybe he's feeling the same.
Give him a chance.Anyone have advice on breaking up with someone you love?
the best thing to do is to be honest with him -
now i'll be honest with you - don't give him the ';Let's be friends'; line -
it just doesn't work - you may really want that but he needs to remove himself from your life for a while - at some point down the line it will be okay to befriend him again
my sister and her boyfriend dated for about 5 years they lived eachother but they didnt know if there was anything else out there and wanted to have fun, and decided they need to meet other ppl and take a while away from eachother and hopefully will reaslize if they were ment to be or not, a year later they had both learned theres no one else out there for them that they could love more,
maybe sujest it? not sure.
Wow! My little sister has been going through the very same. She met her bf when she was 14 or 15. He was her first. They were together for 3.5 years but he was suffocating her though (a little). She loved him and felt that she wanted to eventually be with him, she just needed to live life on her own for a while. She finally needed to end it but was afraid to tell him for the same reasons as you. So I suggested that she sit down and write him a letter explaining everything that she felt and meet him for coffee to give it to him to read while she sat there. That way, she was able to get everything out clearly and concisely without her ';flow'; and train of thought being interrupted, but sat there so that it was not about being chicken and they could talk about it immediately.
He was really angry with her for a few months. She tried calling him every so often to see if he would hang out. He always said no. It crushed her, but I told her that he will need some time. And he did. They were apart for a year and a half but after about 6 months they sort of started to hang out again (they had a lot of mutual friends) and eventually got back together a year or so later. She needed to get somethings out of her system and she did.
If you do this, it's important that you make sure he understands that your love for him hasn't changed you just need to spread your wings and let them dry. Let him know that if it doesn't happen now and you end up staying together, you run the risk of waking up one day and resenting him and you don't want that. Honestly, what you 2 have is special and rare. If it's meant to be, it will happen -no matter what. Just be respectful to him and yourself while you are split up (not saying you would but don't hook up with his friends). Oh, and DON'T go doing stupid stuff to get him to leave you. That's ridiculous! Do that and you'll lose him forever -for sure! Be honest -always. If people can't handle the truth that is their problem, not yours.
Good luck!
It does really hurt a guy when the girl leaves him. When I was very
young I broke up with a guy that wanted to marry me. It hurt him very
much. I was too young to understand how much it hurt him at the time. I know too tho that I would not have been the right one for him...this is in hind sight. At my mother's funeral several years later
he came to pay his respects. He told me that he never truly got over losing me. Be gentle with this person. Maybe do things that would cause him to break it off, if that is possible? It might salvage his pride and let him move on. Good luck.
i think that only you know, what you want to do,i mean yeah you will receive a lot of advice from different people but the right choice will come from you,, heres what i think....
you should talk to him, tell him what you feel, and just tell him everything, then after that let him talk, and from there on..you have to give time to see if you ever are meant to be
Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
How do you get over it? Do you think that when you break up with someone you love that you will eventually get back together? Also if you really love this person would it be hard to get into another relationship? By the way this was a 4 year relationship.
Just curious how men deal with all this compared to women. I am going through a tough time right now.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
Its different for all men. For most men separating isnt the final event like it seems to be for women. It's not until the woman finds someone else that possibility or reunion is closed down for men and thats when the greiving process begins for a man. Its a case of coming to terms with the fact that the familar comfort zone is no longer an option.
Some men can lose the plot at this point and become problematic.
I've just ended a four year relationship and while I would like to get some answers, the whole truth, the bottom line is that I may not like the truth or still wouldnt et the truth or wouldnt believe it if I got it so it makes no difference and its better to uphold my self respect by not letting her know she still has an emotional hold on me.
For men its difficult to come to terms with the fact that women can move on so quickly. Feels like you werent important the way women can put it behind them in seemingly no time at all. For men the process can takes months. IF you really love someone it shouldnt be easy to replace them. If a woman finds someone else quickly it tends to hurt more and thats when feelings like envy, hate and loss are most prominent. It feels like an injustice has been done to the memory of the relationship. And generally men take it harder because a mans ego tends to stand on the strength of his relationship. Take away the relationship and a man generally feels like he has nothing.
Women usually have better support mechanisms from friends since women tend to be better at empthy whereas a man has to deal with things alone and tends to feel like their suffering is unique and they are alone in it. Sad eh.
But this is all rather sweeping. It really does depend on the people involved. But letting go of routine and familiarity is hard for everyone. and no matter how bad a relationship is for us we always hope there is the possibility of going back on some level. It's only natural.
Consider the word divorce. It isnt just a word. its a process. Its about forcing yourself not to care about someone anymore and coming to terms with the fact you are not in their life. That goes against your basic instincts so it s a process of self discipline. Some are good at it, others are not. All depends on the circumstances of the split. I didn't want to break up. I'd invested so much time and energy into it that I couldnt let go even though I knew it was over and that it wasnt healthy for either of us. It took considerable effort not to try and undo what was done when we split. Without the support I had I may well have gone back for another go and degraded myself.
Ultimately its about facing up to harsh realities and admitting truths we'd rather not. It means admitting things about them and things about ourselves and having the self respect to stand by our decisions.
Good luck to you.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
When you start to feel maybe there is some reason to try to get back with her, just remember the reasons you broke up with her. These reasons are still valid. Remember all the times she made you so mad you wanted to pull your hair out. Realize the reason she drove you crazy was because she really did not care about you or your feelings. Remember how selfish and hateful she could be. Then accept you made a good decision by dumping her.
You must realize we have the capacity to love and love again and again. She doesn't want you so it hurts in the solar plexus. In time, you will trust a few others, and will love again. Seems it might be her loss.
read:
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
Why would a man break up with a woman he cares about or even loves ?
Something here does not add up.
You are reaching for any slight hint of hope that he will come back - forget it. It is not easy - but false hope will make it more difficult.
if you love her tooo much you don't get over it.....but you can get your mind off it........just hang with some friends
It happens to us quite often and we get back also.
Just curious how men deal with all this compared to women. I am going through a tough time right now.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
Its different for all men. For most men separating isnt the final event like it seems to be for women. It's not until the woman finds someone else that possibility or reunion is closed down for men and thats when the greiving process begins for a man. Its a case of coming to terms with the fact that the familar comfort zone is no longer an option.
Some men can lose the plot at this point and become problematic.
I've just ended a four year relationship and while I would like to get some answers, the whole truth, the bottom line is that I may not like the truth or still wouldnt et the truth or wouldnt believe it if I got it so it makes no difference and its better to uphold my self respect by not letting her know she still has an emotional hold on me.
For men its difficult to come to terms with the fact that women can move on so quickly. Feels like you werent important the way women can put it behind them in seemingly no time at all. For men the process can takes months. IF you really love someone it shouldnt be easy to replace them. If a woman finds someone else quickly it tends to hurt more and thats when feelings like envy, hate and loss are most prominent. It feels like an injustice has been done to the memory of the relationship. And generally men take it harder because a mans ego tends to stand on the strength of his relationship. Take away the relationship and a man generally feels like he has nothing.
Women usually have better support mechanisms from friends since women tend to be better at empthy whereas a man has to deal with things alone and tends to feel like their suffering is unique and they are alone in it. Sad eh.
But this is all rather sweeping. It really does depend on the people involved. But letting go of routine and familiarity is hard for everyone. and no matter how bad a relationship is for us we always hope there is the possibility of going back on some level. It's only natural.
Consider the word divorce. It isnt just a word. its a process. Its about forcing yourself not to care about someone anymore and coming to terms with the fact you are not in their life. That goes against your basic instincts so it s a process of self discipline. Some are good at it, others are not. All depends on the circumstances of the split. I didn't want to break up. I'd invested so much time and energy into it that I couldnt let go even though I knew it was over and that it wasnt healthy for either of us. It took considerable effort not to try and undo what was done when we split. Without the support I had I may well have gone back for another go and degraded myself.
Ultimately its about facing up to harsh realities and admitting truths we'd rather not. It means admitting things about them and things about ourselves and having the self respect to stand by our decisions.
Good luck to you.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
When you start to feel maybe there is some reason to try to get back with her, just remember the reasons you broke up with her. These reasons are still valid. Remember all the times she made you so mad you wanted to pull your hair out. Realize the reason she drove you crazy was because she really did not care about you or your feelings. Remember how selfish and hateful she could be. Then accept you made a good decision by dumping her.
You must realize we have the capacity to love and love again and again. She doesn't want you so it hurts in the solar plexus. In time, you will trust a few others, and will love again. Seems it might be her loss.
read:
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
Why would a man break up with a woman he cares about or even loves ?
Something here does not add up.
You are reaching for any slight hint of hope that he will come back - forget it. It is not easy - but false hope will make it more difficult.
if you love her tooo much you don't get over it.....but you can get your mind off it........just hang with some friends
It happens to us quite often and we get back also.
Breaking up with someone you love...?
I'm 16 and I've been with this guy(16) for 3 years and I love him deeply and i know he loves me but I've been thinking lately about how boring our relationship has gotten and how he can be so imiture and that I'd just like something diffrent for awhile. I'd hate to hurt him because he mean the world to me but I'm in high school and I really want to date other people and have fun and be a kid. (Plus theres a senior in one of my classes thats really into me and I really think is a neat and fun guy but only has 1 semester left before graduation.) I tried breaking up but he ended up in tears begging me not to saying he do anything and that I was his whole world. I don't know what to do, don't get me wrong I don't want to breakup becuz of the senior I just want a break from this long term relationship? what do you think?Breaking up with someone you love...?
your version of love is different than mine..Breaking up with someone you love...?
how are you deeply in love with him,and yet, want to break up because this relationship is ';boring?'; leave if you want,but you say he's immature? love isnt perfect. i really dont know wut to tell you on this one. follow your heart,i guess.
omg thats what happened to me.....i broke up with the guy and i told him that i want to meet other people.....he cried but he got over it ....now i go with a new guy and i feel so unconfortable...i think i still love my ex and everything is so complicated cuz i feel so confused....trust if u break up with him ur gonna feel weird cuz u got used to him...i meann u have been with him 3 years.....but what ever u do make sure its the right thing...nad if u break up with him do it nicely and try not to make him feel bad...best wishes
You have no choice but to crush him. I hate to sound so mean, but there it is.
The reason he's immature is because obviously, at 16, no one is mature. So he can't handle the break-up of a long-term relationship because he hasn't had to yet.
After all, think about what's going to happen with you and the senior when he goes off to college and has to break up with you because he wants to be a kid and date all those women in college, while you're still a junior in high school? That's what your boyfriend is about to deal with.
But you know in your heart that he shouldn't have to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want him anymore than you should be in a relationship you don't like.
So put him down quick. Remember, snapping off a Band-Aid always hurts less then slowly peeling it away.
Good luck!
You can't break up with yourself. You're in it for life... Oh, you mean him? Lol. That's what you call love??? yeah sure. Well figure it this way. If he's a decent guy you'll be doing him a favor to rid him of you.
Breaking up is always tricky, but in your position, I'd say it's better you do It.You are in high school, and the guy is not your husband or anything,is he? Let him go. I'd say go out with your classmate,see if you can build something up with him.
Plus, you have been with this guy for 3 years?!! Good Lord!! You need some fun and thrill, move on!!!!!!!!!!
your version of love is different than mine..Breaking up with someone you love...?
how are you deeply in love with him,and yet, want to break up because this relationship is ';boring?'; leave if you want,but you say he's immature? love isnt perfect. i really dont know wut to tell you on this one. follow your heart,i guess.
omg thats what happened to me.....i broke up with the guy and i told him that i want to meet other people.....he cried but he got over it ....now i go with a new guy and i feel so unconfortable...i think i still love my ex and everything is so complicated cuz i feel so confused....trust if u break up with him ur gonna feel weird cuz u got used to him...i meann u have been with him 3 years.....but what ever u do make sure its the right thing...nad if u break up with him do it nicely and try not to make him feel bad...best wishes
You have no choice but to crush him. I hate to sound so mean, but there it is.
The reason he's immature is because obviously, at 16, no one is mature. So he can't handle the break-up of a long-term relationship because he hasn't had to yet.
After all, think about what's going to happen with you and the senior when he goes off to college and has to break up with you because he wants to be a kid and date all those women in college, while you're still a junior in high school? That's what your boyfriend is about to deal with.
But you know in your heart that he shouldn't have to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want him anymore than you should be in a relationship you don't like.
So put him down quick. Remember, snapping off a Band-Aid always hurts less then slowly peeling it away.
Good luck!
You can't break up with yourself. You're in it for life... Oh, you mean him? Lol. That's what you call love??? yeah sure. Well figure it this way. If he's a decent guy you'll be doing him a favor to rid him of you.
Breaking up is always tricky, but in your position, I'd say it's better you do It.You are in high school, and the guy is not your husband or anything,is he? Let him go. I'd say go out with your classmate,see if you can build something up with him.
Plus, you have been with this guy for 3 years?!! Good Lord!! You need some fun and thrill, move on!!!!!!!!!!
How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
I found out the truth and she is not cheating on me anymore, but I can not stand the pain I even fell in depression for this. I planing to brake up with her, but I'm afraid to kill my self lam unable to forgive =(How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
I would break up with her just because I would not be able to live without feeling suspicious of her she had a night out with girl friends. Even if she is not cheating now, you never know when she might start again. btw, I hope you meant kill myself in a figurative way and you are not actully planning to do that.. ppl who cheat on you are not worth you loosing your life over.How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
I would break up with her just because I would not be able to live without feeling suspicious of her she had a night out with girl friends. Even if she is not cheating now, you never know when she might start again. btw, I hope you meant kill myself in a figurative way and you are not actully planning to do that.. ppl who cheat on you are not worth you loosing your life over.How do I break up with someone you cheated on me if still in love? she does not know Iknow?
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
Having that emotional rollercoaster kick in is normal - don't think you're depressed and that you'd hurt yourself, just take it slow and remember that you two were separate people and still are. You will be fine w/o her and it's good that she's not cheating anymore, but she should have told you when it happened to give you a fair chance at making a decision then, but she didn't. You'll be sad, and who knows what might really happen, but if you don't think you can get over it, then it's not good for you, so just sit her down and tell her you know what happened. Be prepared for her denial, and anything else she might pull, but think about what it's doing to you and get out of that unhappy place and work on yourself.
How do i break up with someone i no longer have feelings for (Love)?
I live with my boyfriend (of three and a half years),and the feelings i had before i no longer have,because all we seem to do these days is argue,we don't do the things we used to when we first met.we hardly even say i love you,and when we do it's just protocol.i am interseted in somebody else.How do i break up with someone i no longer have feelings for (Love)?
The longer you wait the harder it will be. The worst thing you can do is feel bad for him, it's not fair. The bottom line is you owe it to yourself to be happy, after all, we can all be miserable on our own. Don't cheat, you will only feel guilty and create bad Karma for yourself.How do i break up with someone i no longer have feelings for (Love)?
hunny im was in the same kind of situation you were in. but it wasn't 3 years it was like 1 . i just broke it to him the softes way i could he wasn't the one for me anymore i dont know wat want wrong and we just went our diiferent ways after that ill get at you later ok hunny
Easy..Just tell the guy Im sorry but these past 3 years have been great but Im not In love with you anymore...I hope we can be friends still...
My dear, just make up your mind and do it. If it's not working out, then no use in wasting energy on the relationship. Get it over with and move on with your life. Good luck.
he probably already knows if thats the way u guys act with eachother. just be honest with him let him know in an honest way that things just arent like what they used to be. for all you know he changed bcus hes interested in someone else. but as soon as you tell him get ready to leave that house.
just tell him things isn't working out anymore and it's time to move on
play ushers let it burn and keep it real while you tell him how you feel
tell him that you no longer have feelings for him aamd that your not trying to be mean becuz its not right to pretend that you like him and really don't but if you have any more questions just ask me and i'll help you out bye now!
love always BABIgurl
Dont continue hurting urself just because u dont want to hurt the other person because it not fair on u because anyone that going to be getting hurt in the long run is u and i sure he know n feel that ur drifting away from him so it best if u both end it and move on and if u can stay friends but the first thing is to end the relationship and if it is meant to be u will get bk together eventually.heart rate monitor red hair
The longer you wait the harder it will be. The worst thing you can do is feel bad for him, it's not fair. The bottom line is you owe it to yourself to be happy, after all, we can all be miserable on our own. Don't cheat, you will only feel guilty and create bad Karma for yourself.How do i break up with someone i no longer have feelings for (Love)?
hunny im was in the same kind of situation you were in. but it wasn't 3 years it was like 1 . i just broke it to him the softes way i could he wasn't the one for me anymore i dont know wat want wrong and we just went our diiferent ways after that ill get at you later ok hunny
Easy..Just tell the guy Im sorry but these past 3 years have been great but Im not In love with you anymore...I hope we can be friends still...
My dear, just make up your mind and do it. If it's not working out, then no use in wasting energy on the relationship. Get it over with and move on with your life. Good luck.
he probably already knows if thats the way u guys act with eachother. just be honest with him let him know in an honest way that things just arent like what they used to be. for all you know he changed bcus hes interested in someone else. but as soon as you tell him get ready to leave that house.
just tell him things isn't working out anymore and it's time to move on
play ushers let it burn and keep it real while you tell him how you feel
tell him that you no longer have feelings for him aamd that your not trying to be mean becuz its not right to pretend that you like him and really don't but if you have any more questions just ask me and i'll help you out bye now!
love always BABIgurl
Dont continue hurting urself just because u dont want to hurt the other person because it not fair on u because anyone that going to be getting hurt in the long run is u and i sure he know n feel that ur drifting away from him so it best if u both end it and move on and if u can stay friends but the first thing is to end the relationship and if it is meant to be u will get bk together eventually.
How do you break up with someone who is still in love with you (Mature answers please)?
Hi!
So my current boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. It's been a happy two years.
Before him, I dated this other guy, we've known each other since high school...we went out for four years, and Junior year of college split us up when he had to move really far away. I really thought that he was it. ';The one.'; Call me a hopeless romantic, but I really believe that there's one person out there for everyone. This month he came home, with every intention of staying here. We went out to catch up, and it was like nothing had changed. At all. I want to give us another try. I still feel like he could be the one I spend forever with, and now that long-distance is out of the equation, I really think that we can make this work.
Meanwhile, my current boyfriend is crazy about me. He's had some rough past relationships and a few broken hearts. Our current relationship is the longest he's ever been in. But I'm not feeling it. How to I break up with him, without completely smashing him? I don't want to keep dragging this out. I feel like I at least owe it to him to tell him right away. How should I do this?How do you break up with someone who is still in love with you (Mature answers please)?
You *will* smash him. The more distant you become, the more he will try to win your affection. Probably after this relationship, he might go a little 'crazy' and think he'll never be worth dating or being involved with. It's a tough lesson. The younger he is, the tougher it is. 'Love', to a person who has had their 'heart stomped on Christmas' several times, becomes a distant, elusive commodity. Affairs of the heart become lessened, as the person takes on a more self-involved take on life. Any future romance has a protective vale between him and his 'significant-other', never wishing to go through that pain again.
Should anyone go through that? It happens everyday. They say, ';What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.';
You're upsetting him now with not having your heart in it. Whether he says anything or not, it's 'smashing' him already. Hindsight give us reason to explain to people that maybe we should be honest about who might come back into our lives. If this conversation took place two years ago, the breakup might have been a little softer. But, what's 'done' is done. You have a choice to make.
Arguably, you already made that choice. You're not 'into' the current relationship, though you still show concern for his well being. It's gonna hurt him but you need to pursue your desires. An understanding person would listen to your delima and compromise the outcome to ';I want her to be happy, even if it's not with me.'; Not many can say that. We sometime think we 'own' the person we're with and feel we will die trying to keep them. Or, a part of us just dies.
Regardless if you start up with 'Guy 1', you're heart is not into Guy 2. You need to end this relationship anyway. I left you a link in Sources. What you do after that, is up to you. Granted, we all have to figure out life on our own terms. Your breaking up and his recovering might just be lessons you two need to learn. (It's a good thing?)
Don't take this the wrong way (I hesitated before submitting), but in the future, give your lover the conditions you would leave him; fidelity issues, abuse issues, and, in this case, if an ex-boyfriend comes back to town. At least he'd have a 'Heads Up'.
Peace.
T
(Once, 'Guy 2')
So my current boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. It's been a happy two years.
Before him, I dated this other guy, we've known each other since high school...we went out for four years, and Junior year of college split us up when he had to move really far away. I really thought that he was it. ';The one.'; Call me a hopeless romantic, but I really believe that there's one person out there for everyone. This month he came home, with every intention of staying here. We went out to catch up, and it was like nothing had changed. At all. I want to give us another try. I still feel like he could be the one I spend forever with, and now that long-distance is out of the equation, I really think that we can make this work.
Meanwhile, my current boyfriend is crazy about me. He's had some rough past relationships and a few broken hearts. Our current relationship is the longest he's ever been in. But I'm not feeling it. How to I break up with him, without completely smashing him? I don't want to keep dragging this out. I feel like I at least owe it to him to tell him right away. How should I do this?How do you break up with someone who is still in love with you (Mature answers please)?
You *will* smash him. The more distant you become, the more he will try to win your affection. Probably after this relationship, he might go a little 'crazy' and think he'll never be worth dating or being involved with. It's a tough lesson. The younger he is, the tougher it is. 'Love', to a person who has had their 'heart stomped on Christmas' several times, becomes a distant, elusive commodity. Affairs of the heart become lessened, as the person takes on a more self-involved take on life. Any future romance has a protective vale between him and his 'significant-other', never wishing to go through that pain again.
Should anyone go through that? It happens everyday. They say, ';What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.';
You're upsetting him now with not having your heart in it. Whether he says anything or not, it's 'smashing' him already. Hindsight give us reason to explain to people that maybe we should be honest about who might come back into our lives. If this conversation took place two years ago, the breakup might have been a little softer. But, what's 'done' is done. You have a choice to make.
Arguably, you already made that choice. You're not 'into' the current relationship, though you still show concern for his well being. It's gonna hurt him but you need to pursue your desires. An understanding person would listen to your delima and compromise the outcome to ';I want her to be happy, even if it's not with me.'; Not many can say that. We sometime think we 'own' the person we're with and feel we will die trying to keep them. Or, a part of us just dies.
Regardless if you start up with 'Guy 1', you're heart is not into Guy 2. You need to end this relationship anyway. I left you a link in Sources. What you do after that, is up to you. Granted, we all have to figure out life on our own terms. Your breaking up and his recovering might just be lessons you two need to learn. (It's a good thing?)
Don't take this the wrong way (I hesitated before submitting), but in the future, give your lover the conditions you would leave him; fidelity issues, abuse issues, and, in this case, if an ex-boyfriend comes back to town. At least he'd have a 'Heads Up'.
Peace.
T
(Once, 'Guy 2')
How do you break-up with someone you're still in love with?
I've been with the same girl for over a year and a half now. She has been my rock and my life. She has shown me so much and helped me raise my 3 year old son, and my son views her as a mother. Back in June she started staying out all night, not calling or telling me where she is. It gradually got worse as the months past and back in early August she packed up her clothes and a few possessions and left. Her only reasoning was that she was bored, and she needed more out of life. She changed her cell phone number and I had no way of contacting her for almost 2 weeks. I decided to pack up the rest of her things and place them in a room in the basement. Out of the blue, she calls me and says how much she misses me and my son. She unexpectedly comes over, and her and my son have a moment as if she never left. I ask her what was going on, and she said, ';I screwed up, one day I want this life, and the next day I don't.'; She said she doesn't know where her head is, and she needs to figure things out. The next day, she shows up and offers to buy my son and I breakfast. We have a great time, until she starts to cry and suddenly leaves. Another few days pass, and she calls me late at night, and starts to have a casual conversation. About an hour later, she's at the door and comes in. She only stays for a little while and leaves again to meet with some friends. That was yesterday, and I don't know what to do.
On one hand, I still love this woman with all my heart, and if she said she wants to come home, I'd take her and never look back. On the other hand, all of this 'come here, come here now go away, go away' is wearing me thin. She will still call me hunnie and baby but than tell me she's been hanging out with a guy she just met. She's denied that they're anything more than friends. I'm just exhausted and need some answers. Should I keep her stuff here, and hope that she figures out what she wants in life? Should I write her a letter explaining how I feel, and hope I can give it to her? Or do I take all of her stuff over to one of her friends house and try to erase her from my memory?
All three choices are very painful, and I do not know which is the right one, I still love her so much and I wish we could be a family again. But, she won't give me a definitive answer if that is what she wants.
Sorry for the wall of text. Thank you in advance.How do you break-up with someone you're still in love with?
It's always hard to see the forest through the trees when you're emotionally involved. So you really need to take a step back and take your emotions out of it. This decision needs to be made without the emotional clutter.
So what do you want for your son? Because that's the most important thing in your life right now. What enrichment is she bringing to his life, and yours for that matter?
It's hard to give you advice as to what to do. If it were me, I'd put my kid's interests in front of my own. He deserves stability and I would venture to say he doesn't need this ';in-again, out-again'; revolving door this woman seems to bring. Perhaps the best bet is to wash your hands of her and let her know that you need to be a dad before everything else and until she straightens out her life and figures out what she wants, it's best she does her thinking away from you and not contact you anymore. Then, YOU can make the decision to be involved if and when she decides she wants both of you in her life. Who knows? In the process of her thinking things through, you may find someone else who can be a more positive influence.
Well, that's my take on it. But do what's right for your kid above all else. After all, you're the role model he's looking up to.
Good luck!
On one hand, I still love this woman with all my heart, and if she said she wants to come home, I'd take her and never look back. On the other hand, all of this 'come here, come here now go away, go away' is wearing me thin. She will still call me hunnie and baby but than tell me she's been hanging out with a guy she just met. She's denied that they're anything more than friends. I'm just exhausted and need some answers. Should I keep her stuff here, and hope that she figures out what she wants in life? Should I write her a letter explaining how I feel, and hope I can give it to her? Or do I take all of her stuff over to one of her friends house and try to erase her from my memory?
All three choices are very painful, and I do not know which is the right one, I still love her so much and I wish we could be a family again. But, she won't give me a definitive answer if that is what she wants.
Sorry for the wall of text. Thank you in advance.How do you break-up with someone you're still in love with?
It's always hard to see the forest through the trees when you're emotionally involved. So you really need to take a step back and take your emotions out of it. This decision needs to be made without the emotional clutter.
So what do you want for your son? Because that's the most important thing in your life right now. What enrichment is she bringing to his life, and yours for that matter?
It's hard to give you advice as to what to do. If it were me, I'd put my kid's interests in front of my own. He deserves stability and I would venture to say he doesn't need this ';in-again, out-again'; revolving door this woman seems to bring. Perhaps the best bet is to wash your hands of her and let her know that you need to be a dad before everything else and until she straightens out her life and figures out what she wants, it's best she does her thinking away from you and not contact you anymore. Then, YOU can make the decision to be involved if and when she decides she wants both of you in her life. Who knows? In the process of her thinking things through, you may find someone else who can be a more positive influence.
Well, that's my take on it. But do what's right for your kid above all else. After all, you're the role model he's looking up to.
Good luck!
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