How do you break up with someone you are in love with?

I have been with a girl for 9 months. I found out not too long ago that she has a boyfriend and has had a boyfriend the entire time we have been together. I feel like a fool. She doesn't know that I know. Things were great before. Wonderful. The last couple of weeks we haven't spent much time together. She got injured and her ';friend'; /boyfriend has been staying with her every night. I can't do this anymore. I asked if everything was ok and she said yes. Its apparently clear that she is never going to tell me the truth. I am completely in love with her and I don't know what to do. I need advice, please.How do you break up with someone you are in love with?
Check out the song ''50 ways to leave your lover'' by Paul SimonHow do you break up with someone you are in love with?
How did you find out about the boyfriend?





I am so sorry that this is happening to you, hun. It will hurt, but you have to do it just to save yourself any more pain. You deserve better. You might be in love with her, but she clearly does not give a darn about you. :-(





Just do it quickly, and don't give her a chance to talk you out of it. Maybe do it in a note or e-mail.





';I know you have a boyfriend. Sorry, but I deserve better. I can't see you anymore!';





Just do it.





HUGS


Good Luck, hun.
sounds like a complete *** of a girlfriend





because you are in love doesn't mean she is, sorry if that's harsh. But you may want to take a stronger role into seeing if she really is. (chances are if shes cheating, shes not)





at the end you shouldn't be settling. ever. its a mutual feeling and relationship
tell her she is a dog and a liar with no morals and with no morals there is no trust so there is plenty of fish in the sea and she is a used sloppy squid with no standards so you are moving on up the food chain
you deserve better and thats all that you have to tell yourself..you will get over her trust me..it will take time but you will find someone better and who will treat you with the respect you deserve..you are a queen not a doormat!
It's hard. Make sure you know that you want to break up with her before you do it or you will regret it later. It sounds like she's been lying but she may just be confused. Give her an ultimatum.
Tell her that you know. In one sentence and then leave. And you are going to cry write poetry or songs or talk to other friends. And have your sad songs ready. Everything will be fine.
You say goodbye, you cry, and you don't look back. Problem solved. 6 billion people in the world- I think you'll find somebody else sooner or later
Love triangle possibility? Perhaps you can all work it out.
im very sorry that this has happened to you but im gonna be blunt! You need to leave NOW if you stay any longer its just gonna make things worse and its just gonna be harder and hurt you more! i understand that your in love but you cant have a relationship without trust and honesty!! i know you love her but do you really want to come second to her boyfriend?!? it sounds like shes either confused and doesn't know what she wants or she wanted to play and have best of both worlds! but either way shes wrong to have strung you along and make you believe that she loved you and that you were the only one! 9 months is a really long time to keep a relationship going bast on a lie. you don't have to end it on a bad note either. just let her know that you found out about her boyfriend and you cant share your relationship with him! and that you wished things could be different but you deserve more than that!!!! im telling you now if you she try's to say sorry and say she only wants to be with you, its a lie she might be faithful and truthful for a little bit but it will happen again! if she could lie to you for the last 9months whats to say she is going to change now!!! i hope everything works out for you, and i hope you get the respect that you deserve!!!
I was going to say 'Carefully and Gently, without being hurtful'.....but now that I read your detailed follow-up, I would just be straight with her about how you feel. If she has had a boyfriend the entire time, and then just cast you aside recently when she is injured for someone else, she obviously cares more for him than you (I don't mean to sound blunt there). So, you do need to tell her you know about him, so at least she knows the reason why you want to end it, but if she has been doing this the whole 9 MONTHS, then don't worry about sparing her feelings. If you are upset or mad, let her know.