How do you break up with someone you love?

me and my girlfriend were best friends for a year before we dated but now everythings on me, the bills, cleaning, taking care of our dog, EVERYTHING!!!! she is very emotional, and has A LOT of debt that ive been paying off for her little by little. But theres no more sexual excitement anymore, i even have to be the one to get her in the mood for sex, i cant remember the last time she was the one who wanted to. I know its a deeper issue than loss of interest but i just cant take it anymore, i work 50 hours a week to support her and all of her habbits, i havent been able to spend a dime on myself in months. I love her and if i leave her shes stuck with debt she cant handle a lease she cant pay for, and overdue bills that will destroy her credit. Ive tried to have talks with her but they just seem to have no affect on her at all. and she wont talk to me about anything. she says she loves me and seems to genuinly mean it, but i cant continue to pull this relationship along with no help, im only 19, and this has become such a responsibility i feel like im 30. do i leave her? should i keep trying to make it more interesting and hope for the best, were talking about moving once the lease is up and were both so excited, but idk if i can last 6 more months till then.How do you break up with someone you love?
I am in a similar but not so severe situation, so I feel for you... It happened to me from 19 to 22.





This certainly isn't your answer but I felt a hell of a lot better when I proposed and made that commitment. Things kind of fell in place.





But, I do know, the loss of sexual interest... most likely due to all the stress from bills, being in debt, and all that piling up. Every little thing adds up in her subconscious and will diminish her sex drive.





I would say stick it out if you loved her... as she is probably already an emotional train wreck over everything, will just cause that train wreck to explode. But, your situation seems worse then mine was... I didn't have to deal with debt... by all means do what makes you happy. You are young, you don't need a live-in girlfriend...





Good luck.How do you break up with someone you love?
go in your room shut and lock the door and talk don't leave until you have reached an agrrement. if you can't come up with something then unfourtunatly u have to leave. you can't let her credit drag u don't if you get married in the future hope this helps.
GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN! At least you have some form of hope as of now, but stay and keep getting burying yourselves.





Your 19? Act your age - you should be out somewhere with the boys on Friday and Saturday night scoping for women. Play the field a bit, that'll get your mind off of feeling bad.





Remember - once you make the decision and cut the cord. No going back, its over , its done. Shes gonna cry so much it'll flood the place, STAND FIRM.





Good luck
Well if you have to move but you still are in love with her then don't break up with her. But if she loves you but you don't love her back then do break up with her. Listen to your heart, because from my position I don't know why you would want to break up with her just because you have to move if you still love her.
This is tough, She seems very needy and dependent! in my opinion i think she is staying with you for the comfort. she is comfy with you, she knows you will take care of her and she knows you will always be there for her. %26amp; even if she were to want to split up with you i think that she would always base it off of comfort and change her mind. You should not have to take care of her, your still young and should be living your life to its fullest! and she needs to learn how to grow up and become independent! breaking it off with her would force her to do that and she might thank you in the long run. stop thinking about her and think about yourself. it seems like you have noy been doing anything for YOURSELF latley. and maybe the first thing you should do it break it off with her and start living your life the way you want too, Maybe in the long run the two of you will end up together but make sure she has matured enough for you!





GOOD LUCK!
Alot of times the reasons couples/married people break up is over money issues. Honestly, your going to have to break away..at least with the living together/financial responsibility until she's able to get her sh*t together. Sit her down and let her know that you can no longer pull her weight even though you love her. Let her know that maybe you two can't continue living together until she's able to contribute her share. It doesn't mean you have to break up it just means you need to break up with her financial issues. If she loves you she needs to understand the amount of burden she is putting you through and should be doing all she can to help you. Is she working 50 hours a week as well? Tell her to get a job or maybe 3! If she doesn't understand and things don't change by the end of the lease I would suggest you get out of the relationship for good. Your a young guy who can't be tied down to someone's financial shortcomings for the rest of your life. Her debt could ultimately end up causing your own debt and once your in debt your screwed. Then you'll resent her too. You seem like a good guy who wants to help someone out but sometimes you need to be a lil selfish and think of yourself too! Good luck!
wow! u're the man man!!! does she not have family to go to? if so, i'd pack up for the mooch to get going...if i were u. but im a woman so to be in her situation, it'll probably be the scariest thing ever but need to realize she has to stop acting like a child by looking for someone to take care of her problems.
You're right it is even more deeper than loss of interest. Your girlfriend is depressed. If you love her like you say you do then you stay by her side. Things can be a whole lot worse. But it's not. She's not cheating on you or disrespecting you. Yes she's neglecting your needs but she's also neglecting her health by not seeking help for her depression. Don't leave her. Stay and work it out.
no idea
Her debt/stress/emotional issues aren't your problem. It's apparent that you aren't happy and she isn't really feeling it either (that's what it usually means when a girl stops sexin' her man). You need to do what makes YOU happy and her using you doesn't sound like it's cutting it with you. Get out before she takes all your money and continues using you, then makes you look like a fool.
i think u shood break up with her, ur still young and theres still a chance u can find someone that will help you and show interest! youll get over her eventually, just do things that will keep you busy(:


tell her that ucant keep doing things alone,and its getting to youu and if she doesnt start helping then things wont work out cuz ur tired of it. tell her exactly how ufeel. goodluckk!