How do you break up with someone who loves you very much with the least pain possible???

I love him, he loves me, but we want different things. That isn't going to change. It's easier to stay than go... But I know, in my heart, that's it's time. I just don't know how.How do you break up with someone who loves you very much with the least pain possible???
Try to explain it as best you can with him. If you both want different things, then it just won't work - why prolong the pain of it? Whoever said life is fair was a big fat liar!





Good luck with it!





MHow do you break up with someone who loves you very much with the least pain possible???
There are no easy ways to break up with person. I suggest to you is to be honest and just come out and tell that person. But look in your heart and know this is exactly what you want to do. Wish you luck.
If your heart says you to go, even if it is not easier, better listen to Your Heart and Your Heart Only.. Even not to your Logic..





and Your Heart is the real wellwisher or you than any one on the Yahoo Answers... You judge and decide your life with your soul and heart direction...





good luck and life
no true easy way so yeah do it like your ripping off a bandaid
theres really no easy way for that unless you will tell him you dont love him anymore eventhough you still do. why is that? because guys are such an ***! if you tell him that you still love him but you just felt that its time for you to go in separate ways, he wont buy it. he will bug you bout the REAL reason your breakin up wit him. he might even accused you of having a third party! so thats probably the best way to say it. coz if you did, he might just leave you alone.
i guess if you really love each other and the feelings you have are real, there is no point of breaking up. the thing is, if you both want other things, you have each other to fulfill and to accept and complement it. but if it's really time then what your heart tells you cant be a lie.


Like the song says, ';Breaking Up is Hard to Do.'; Sooner or later, you may find that you want to leave a relationship, and you'll need to let the other person know.


Steps





1. Have things turned around in your relationship?


Have things turned around in your relationship?


Know for sure that you really do want to break up. If you are simply upset with your partner, you should consider talking about what upset you rather than ending the relationship.


2. Before having ';the talk'; that ends the relationship, think about the reasons you are breaking up. Your partner will ask you why you want out, and you should be prepared with answers. If you have trouble remembering examples during emotional discussions or arguments, write your reasons down in advance.


3. Plan out how long you are willing to spend ';breaking up'; and stick to your schedule. You may even want to arrange an appointment with a friend in a neutral location so that you can say ';I'm supposed to meet John at the restaurant in fifteen minutes, so I have to go now.';


4. Sit down with your partner and let him or her know that you need to have a serious talk. When asked ';why?'; or ';about what?';, simply respond that you've decided to end the relationship.


5. Expect your partner to do any or all of the following:


* Question -- He or she will want to know why, and whether there was anything he or she could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible.


* Cry -- The other person will likely be upset, and it will show. It is okay to comfort him or her, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision.


* Argue -- He or she may dispute anything you've said during the breakup, including examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don't get dragged into a fight, and don't split hairs. Let your partner know that arguing isn't going to change your decision.


* Bargain/Beg -- He or she may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn't change when you've discussed your problems in the past, it is too late to expect him or her to truly change now.


* Lash Out -- Whether it's as simple as saying ';You'll never find anyone as good as me'; or as scary as saying ';I'll make you regret this';, he or she is usually just trying to make himself or herself feel better.





* Expect to spend at least one hour ';breaking up';, and longer if the relationship lasted a year or more.


* If at all possible, break the news ';on their turf,'; i.e. at his/her home. At least be somewhere that they feel comfortable. They'll want to feel safe enough to cry/get angry/make a scene in general. While they might be willing to do these things at your place, making someone go home after getting news like that will make them more bitter. If you both live together, breaking-up will be particularly problematic and stressful.


* Many people feel that it is poor etiquette to break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. It is easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, but you may lose the respect of your mutual friends if you take the easy way out.


* If you are sure you want to break up with somebody, it is best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they are already down will make them feel awful.


* While honesty is the best policy, you may want to soften the blow by avoiding sensitive issues (for example, most don't want to hear ';I'm breaking up with you because your breath smells'; ). However, being too vague can cause the other person to become even more upset.


* If at all possible, don't disappear as a method of ending a relationship. It shows a lack of respect both for the person and the relationship you had.


* Break up with him/her somewhere other than your house, workplace (etc.), because if you are over at their house, it is easy for you to leave, however if they are at your house, it could be tough to get rid of them.





hope that helped!


-lia
it hurts!!!! break up early .
There is no easy way. Just make sure you explain the reasons that you want out to him.
The answer is in your question: ';I love you, I know you love me, but we want different things. That isn't going to change.'; etc, etc.