So I met him two years ago at my college, and we've been going out. I still love him dearly. we've been fighting nearly every week for the past month and a half because we both because extremely busy.
Today, while we were aruging over something, i said ';Oh, ok, i'm sorry i'm so useless and cause you to be depressed'; and he slapped me (not hard). He said he didn't want to hear me ';put myself down';
but... I've told him before in the past, I HATE being slapped. I'd rather him punch me or something, but ABHOR being slapped! this one action made me want to consider breaking up.
Am i over reacting? or is this reasonable reaction?How to break up with someone you still love?
You are definitely not overreacting. That is abuse. You SHOULD break up with him. You need to let him know that you are a strong women who will not stand for that. But please be cautious: I mean, if he slapped you just for you ';putting yourself down,'; then he could do worse if you end the relationship. I suggest doing it over the phone. That may be a little harsh but your safety is ALWAYS the most important factor.How to break up with someone you still love?
if its been two plus years and he KNOWS you hate it, then why did he do it. so i don't think you are over reacting. but fighting comes and goes. like every relationship you have your ups and downs. trust me, this fighting will pass. and i know being with one another is hard especially when you both are super busy, but you both need to make some time for one another. it helps. so in a way you are over reacting. you shouldn't break up with somebody you love dearly over a small slap. if its abuse. leave and leave now. i hope i helped.
This a joke right ?
You don't mind being punched but slaps are out of the question. right
He doesn't want you to put yourself down so he hits you, hmmm.
it's under-reaction and nothing in this so far seems reasonable.
wild guess # 3 You are both bad for each other and hindering each other from growing and becoming better people. If you are not careful you will wind up in a niche where you and him only like and have the skills to relate to people who are caught in this same loop.
a friend is someone that brings out the positive best in You, and if you are a friend you will bring it out in them. You might make better friends than lovers at this time no matter how good the sex is...
I would agree with u. It is a reasonable reaction cause the fact that u told him that u hated being slapped and that u and him fight everyday which does help end a relationship but u shouldn't be putting ur self down like that either. Maybe u and him could work out ya'll differences and forget about what happen and go on with ya'll life together
over reacting please get over it :(
Thanks for the advice!
Honestly love!
Slapping, hitting, none of that is ok! You are NOT over reacting! But i do understand how hard it is to break up with someone you are in love with! You gotta be strong and do what feels right, its gunna hurt but keep busy and there is man out there that will not fight with you ever minute and wont slap you!
He slapped you to make you get a grip, that's why he didn't slap you hard. But either way, it's still abuse. That light slap can lead to further abuse in the future. The choice is yours.
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