How do you break up with someone you really love but its just not working?

Me and my bf have been together year. I haven't caught him physically cheating but he lies about his where abouts and flirts recklessly(even with my family). in A lot of ways he is a good man he doesn't drink, smoke, he makes 80k a year, and he spoils me and lets me get my way all the time not to mention he is fine as hell.I love him tremendously but I just cant stand feeling like a fool. His biggest saying is it'll get better. Please what should I do? How do you break up with someone you really love but its just not working?
well it depends on what you want, respect/honesty, or a man who you suspect is cheating on you who don't drink, smoke, and make 80k a year. You have to decide what is more important to you, and you say how he is such a good man but what about you you attracted him why don't you think you can find love with an even better man who you know is honest and isn't cheating on you?How do you break up with someone you really love but its just not working?
Just weigh what qualities in a man are most important to you.





Is it money or respect?





If he is flirting with your family members he has no respect for you. If he is lying to you he has no respect for you.





Respect = Trust





Think deep into all the possibilities in your life and all his capabilities with his LACK of honesty, respect and inconsiderate behaviors. What could his behaviors lead to in the long run? Will life with him be a good life for you? Is that true love on his part? Do you deserve that type of treatment?





You lived 99% of your life with out him and was doing just fine. You will love again and even better the next time around if you learn from you're mistakes. Basically life is what you make it. You have the ability to free your self from unnecessary drama, distress, and uncertainties.
Tell him that your tired of waiting for it ';to get better'; and you know that theres better out there waiting for you and though, you hate to be the girlfriend that gives ultimatums you have no choice, either he makes you feel like you THE ONLY ONE he wants (which means no flirting) or you leave and find somebody just as fine who will treat you the way you deserve. He might be right in all the other aspects of the relationship but that is a big part of a relationship. You have to feel comfortable that your his only woman. If you mean what it seems like you do to him, he'll shape up. If not, his loss. Hope that helps. ';] Good Luck
when you love someone, it's so hard to let go.


but if things make no progress it all, neither of you are working TOGETHER, to make things better.


communication is all it takes.


if you both love each other, and if it was meant to be, you guys will continue to grow as a couple.


make sure you both understand one another.


long talks help tremendously.


make some time, and just sort things out.


love is a beautiful thing, and is hard to let go, believe me, i know.


but stay strong girl:)


battle it out!
%26gt;all good qualities are hard to resist


%26gt;but every story must end.every sentence there is period or coma


%26gt;but in your case,you cant find a way to break that will justify your motive of breaking him up


%26gt;the only way and the sign will be in your hand


%26gt;one day you will face him that even there is love the relationship will no longer go on and should be stop..


%26gt;and move on to the next level...


%26gt;which means the erotic relationship is no longer there but more in deeper level of friendship


%26gt;its hard to understand even yourself....


%26gt;so try to evaluate yourself and discover your inner thoughts


%26gt;and maybe you will find the right and precise words that will fit your whole being why you want to end up the relationship


%26gt;why?


%26gt;i have been to that stage...


%26gt;me and my x is no longer lover but as a parent....


%26gt;our or my karma with him is ended


%26gt;still your decision


%26gt;sp
Talk to him about it all and tell him the truth about how you feel without sugar coating as for the flirting thing my husband was like that also but when I finally got through to his hard core and he said that he didn't know how to talk to people like i did so he covered it with the flirting actions. So before you toss in a towel with someone you love and seems to love you give it alot of thought and talk to him about it
ha.....ha. You think relationships are easy don't you?


'It's okay, he won't do it again.....' 'It'll get better, let us just wait for tomorrow.'


f*ck. relationships take a sh*tload of work. You think relationships are all lovey dovey and happy sht? It's commitment, it's work, it's pain, it's tolerance, it's compromise. If you do not understand that last sentence, you are doomed to bad relationships.........................pe鈥?out



girl please....';it'll get better'; will NEVER get better. you gave it a shot and you're tired of being lied to.





and when you're truly tired of a man he'll know...
You know in your heart something is wrong. No matter how great a relationship seems, if you don't have trust you don't have a relationship!


Move on....
Confront him and be like if your not going to commit to this relationship its obviously not going to work, and if he loves you enough he'll stop and try,.





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i've been in the same situation girl, i broke up with my boyfriend a month ago.


just let him know how you feel and just explain it to him in a nice way and hopefully he'll understand


i hope i helped good luck :)
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leave a letter n say it wouldve been too hard to do it in person-tell him he/u will find someone great--
how do you break up with him.. painfully , very painfully.. but better a lot of hurt quick than drawing it out.. nice letter or poem saying good by.. and go.. yea.. I know.. sucks..
well she told me...





Im tired of this. Im tired of fighting. I cant do it anymore.





I dont think Ill forget....



well try to get couples conceling