';how do you get over a messy break-up with someone you still love?';?

i have very recently split up with the woman that i have loved for over a year and i still love her. She wants me to move on to better things but wont listen when i tell her i had all i wanted. she says she loves me but wants me to forget her and move on. With the pain that this is causing me i cant really think of what to do. if you have anything that can help an emotionaly distraught man stiil in love?';how do you get over a messy break-up with someone you still love?';?
';i have very recently split up with the woman that i have loved for over a year and i still love her';





That is very often the case with most of us guys when we date someone for a long time and then get dumped. This is entirely normal for you to still be in love with her, and it will be a while before the feelings for her go away. If I were you I would busy myself with other things to do and cram my life with stuff that way you can minimize the amount of time that you will spend thinking about her.





';She wants me to move on to better things but wont listen when i tell her i had all i wanted';





No, SHE wants to move on to better things. (this is what she is thinking about in her mind) That is exactly why she won't listen to you when you tell her that she was all that you wanted. People ALMOST NEVER break up with someone because they think that the other person is too good for them. So what she is actually saying is that she wants to move onto better things. This is a lot like the saying ';Its not you, its me'; (BS)





';she says she loves me but wants me to forget her and move on.';





sorry to tell you this, but like I said about this is another example that she is lying to you. She doesn't love you, but she is saying this for a couple of reasons. 1.) Its a defense mechanism-so that she can reassure herself that she did the right thing. 2.) She is saying this to attempt to not break your feelings. Many women (Not all) try very hard to not hurt our feelings, and what those kind of people don't realize is that they already hurt our feelings by trying not to.





There is also another thing about that line. She is quite effectively sending you a mixed signal: ';she says she loves me, but wants me to forget her'; So what?? You are supposed to love her on and on, and then forget about her?





No; the simple truth of the matter is that while she might love parts of you, for the most part she has lost that feeling for you which would explain why she broke up with you to begin with. she no longer loves you, it was pretty much just a poor attempt to try and make you feel better.





In the end the best thing that you can do is like I said above. Just busy yourself with your job, hobbies, exercise or whatever you like doing; do it more. An occupied mind is a happy mind. I am not going to lie to you though, there will be times that you are going to think about her, but what you need to do is just give it some more time, because in the end. ';Time heals all wounds'; It might take a while but you'll get there. One time it took me 18months before I was ready to go again. It won't be something that just gets better overnight, but if you keep at it you'll get there.';how do you get over a messy break-up with someone you still love?';?
First of, you can never get over a messy break-up especially if you truly love that person, but, eventually, time heals but would never let you forget. She's right when she said that you need to move on, and its the only thing that can help you slowly. It would hurt but as we all know love hurts, but its better to feel love then hurt, than never been loved and all hurt. Just think of your relationship as one of the wonderful part of your life that you can share and be proud of someday.
Time. You need to go through healing from this. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It is difficult right now, but each day will get easier. You need to focus on things other than the relationship. Take care of you right now. Don't call or have contact with your ex, because that will keep the hurt fresh and prevent you from moving on. I wish you all the best.
I know how you feel but she has made her choice to go. Thank your lucky stars she told you after a year and not years later. You must take a deep breath, look up towards the sun and let the shadows fall behind you. God bless.
You might want, if you do not already, start exercising


to assist you to feel confident about yourself. Plus if you go to a gym you will meet interesting people.


Good luck
Ahhh its ok those idots are mean but ya she might have cheated and dont ask her because then if your wrong she Will Hate you.


But you might just have to move on maybe she has already moved on 2.


I wish you luck


Hannah
you got cheated! she slept with someone and didnt wanted to tell you, hahahaaha.
Plenty of fish in the sea mate.
time is the only thing thats going to help.
It takes time!!
find the man she slept with


cut up his body


and speak to the peices