Is it selfish to break up with someone if they love you more than you ever could love them?

And does it seem wrong if you find yourself loving them after LEARNING how to love them, you know the love is all-consuming and after being together for 10 months separate and feeling completely empty and like you haven't lost anything? Is that wrong?Is it selfish to break up with someone if they love you more than you ever could love them?
No it is not selfish to break up with someone you don't feel that you love as much as they love you. As long as you have not been leading him on, pretending to love him only to drop him in an uncaring way, you have not done a deliberate unkindness.





If you have engaged in the relationship and found out that you don't love him enough to continue on or you want a love relationship that is more equally reciprocated, then ending the relationship is the honest thing to do. You should be as kind as possible but have your reasons for ending it thoroughly worked out in your mind so you can express them to your former flame in a way that will help him understand why it is all for the best.





Enduring love is way more than ';feelings';. Feelings come and go. Love is a decision and a promise too. You promise to stand by a person even when you don't ';feel the love'; on any particular day. It's a promise of constancy during hard times and good times and that is love too.Is it selfish to break up with someone if they love you more than you ever could love them?
Yes. Learning to love someone takes time. It's not easily achieved over night. If someone loves you more than you love them, I think you need to give yourself a chance to catch up. As long as you still have feelings for them, it doesn't matter who loves who more. Besides, how do you know they love you more than they love you? Different people tend to measure their capacity of love differently.
Not at all. It doesn't do you any good or them. After a while, don't you think they are going to expect you to be able to return the feelings, but you won't be able to because you never shared them in the first place. It may be more difficult for the other person than you, but the break up is the best thing for you both--the other may not realize it yet.
um, wait..too many questions...and confusing ones too.


';empty and like you ';HAVEN'T'; lost anything?'; I'm confused.
I think you comes into consideration how do u fell about this situation your happiness in not meant to be pushed aside you comes first...
You can't help the way you feel. That simply tells you it was not meant to be. You will know when you are in love!!