How do you know it is time to break up with someone you love?

I love my boyfriend more than anyone Ive ever dated... Im not young this is not puppy love I am a grown professional adult and so is he. But we have major issues that will follow us throughout this relationship that are not going away. I do not want to break up with him because I love him so much. But these issues are major issues and this relationship just will not work. The issues are : trust, communication, family and friends, and the fact that he has a daughter already who doesnt want him to have anymore children (and he told her that he is happy just having her and wont have anymore kids but then told me that he wants more kids)... How do you break up with someone you truely love more than anything? what are some ways to help me move on? tonite.How do you know it is time to break up with someone you love?
Have you discussed these issues with him? If you have, and there has been no change, I suggest that you stay focused on the decision that is for your highest good, it will provide you with the strength to end this relationship and move forward.





There is no easy way to let go of someone that you genuinely want to be with, I commend you for recognizing the major snags between you and him at this stage in your relationship.





If you haven't already, try to see if you and he can clear up the issues that stand between the two of you before you call it quits. You want to end it knowing that you gave all you could before allowing it to die its' own death. That way you will minimize your regrets.How do you know it is time to break up with someone you love?
I can tell you what I did. I broke off a one year relationship and engagement for some of the same reasons you mention. I did it abruptly. I cut off all ties, didn't answer my phone for a month. (I still check the phone ID.) It was very very hard to do. I had to bite the bullet so to speak. But I knew it was the best thing for the both of us.





It gets easier to deal with with time. I still think about her every day. Just not nearly as much as I used to. Its been five months now.
is he really doing anything wrong to hurt u in anyway.... if u truly love him then let life take it course.... its so hard to let someone go when ur heart has so much love for that person.... prepare yourself if u decide to move on...depressing will set in and u will be emotionally a wreck for several months. hang in there. God Bless!
Well, The Side order of Life TV show kinda deals with this as well. You don't want to let go but you don't want anyone else to have it.





Let go and move on. Remember this quotation:


';Pain is the breaking of the shell which encloses your understanding. Just as the stone of the fruit must break so that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.';
You said in here that you have major issues one of them being trust. In any relationship doesn't matter what the relationship is, love, Friends, work, healthcare, if there is no trust there is no relationship.





If you do not trust him then I would venture to guess you, deep down, don't really love him. It may be you need to break up with him for him to see what he is missing.





I know it will hurt doing that, but as I said...the lack of trust issue is a big one here.
whats meant to be will always find a way
well tell him that u guys want to take a break for a while but dont actully meet anione else but just to you noe, breath in freash air and stop worrieing about things he do or he worries about wat you doing but this is base on trust so mi main point is that just tell him that u guys want oto take a break
Unfortunately, sometimes love isn't always enough. It sounds like you have already made your decision, so just sit the man down and explain everything in an honest manner. Don't be hurtful, but be direct. Ensure he understands you have made a decision and will not change your mind. Avoid saying things like ';maybe in the future things will change.'; Hopefully, after time, you can remain friends.





Good Luck!
hey? first you want to flip flop on an issue, and then you want to break up with him? Follow your heart man...if you can make things work, make them work. you can always talk to the daughter. I remember when i was younger, i was a little punk, and I wished that I didnt have any younger siblings...but now that Im 17, a lot has changed, and I did wish that I had younger siblings just so that when I'm home at 3 AM in the morning, I know that there's somebody I can always chill with there. Anyway...cmon gal, you got this.
If you truly love him, then why break up? Why not talk and work out the issues? Why not try counseling? Doesn't love conquer all?





Honestly, I'd seriously think about this before acting. If you love him and he's good to your soul (doesn't hurt it or make it feel dirty in any way by bad or negative or immoral behavior), then you have something that should be fought for.





Good luck!
By realizing the pros and cons about him. Make a list. If the cons outweigh the pros then you've pretty much answered your own question. Moving on is a difficult task, especially since your feelings are so much more stronger for you significant other. You need someone that will fulfill what you want in a relationship and vice versa.





Sounds like you know what you want and you know what makes you happy. Talk to him, and go from there. You seem to have a good judge of character, if he doesn't respond in the way you had expected, then it's time to leave him and find someone whose 100% about you, a relationship where the both of you are putting into it, and you're both receiving what you want.





Good luck!
If there are trust issues, you need counseling or to call it quits.





If you want more kids and he doesn't, you need to call it quits.





If he is listening to his daughter more than you, he's a good father, but its going to be tough for you. I'd call it quits.





The simple answer is when the person you love makes you sad more often than they make you happy, its time to keep the happy memories and put the old love behind you - leave the bad memories there too.
Sadly there is no easy way to move on, but it seems you already know that it won't work. The easiest way to break up with him is to just tell him what you are feeling and let him know it won't get better and that it is time both of you move on, both people deserve happiness. If there are these issues obv neither are happy, it makes it hard when you love someone, but there comes a time when you know it wont work out and have to say goodbye and move on, no matter how much it hurts
Tell the person flat out all of the issues your relationship has....do not set all the blame on him and make him angry....if you make him angry....you will get nothing out of the conversation....tell him you love him, but do not think you can stand the stain in your relationship....tell him you think it might be best for both of you if you both went your seperate ways....





Be sure that you have given him a chance to talk with you first about your problems and you are at a mutual agreement that you have tried to work through them....





I am sorry if you do have a hard time with him and without him, but you are probably better off being able to live without a BIG weight on your shoulders and now you are able to find someone that you CAN be in a relationship with, that you can actually be happy with....
You don't need to break up with him. You need to go with him to a family therapist/couples counselor and work this out.


It sounds like you love him, and he loves you.


Love is a terrible thing to walk away from or throw away.


Work it out...you will need professional counseling as a couple, but it would be worth it.


Love is a precious treasure.


Go to the movies: see how many of them are about love.


Listen to the radio: see how many songs are about love.


Face it, love is something very special. And you seem to have it. Nurture it, don't discard it.