There are some problems. She is kind of selfish, everything is always about her. If I have something bothering me, we end up talking about how it makes HER feel. She has some emotional issues that are hard to deal with. She isn't always honest with me. Things like that.
So, I tell myself maybe I should move on, but when I actually picture it, or even bring it up to her, all of a sudden I feel like I'm going to die if she leaves me, so I relent. I feel like I can't live without her. But, inevitabaly, a problem comes up again and I start the same cycle.
How do you break up with someone that you love, but who you KNOW is bad for you?How do you break up with someone you love so much?
This is your same old pattern...MAKE GOOD CHOICES!How do you break up with someone you love so much?
Tell her how you feel and she will understand. I know I did when my boyfriend broke up with me. Don't worry, she will understand and you guys will move on.
why don´t you give her a second chance. tell her what kind of bothers you and ask her if it´s possible to try new ways of treating each other. it seems you really love her and i hope she loves you too. maybe you can try one week doing everything she likes and another week everything you like or maybe day in between. or you can think of other strategies if it doesn´t work , then tell her you can´t continue in that kind of mono-relationship.
First things first, have you ever talked to her about how you feel she is so selfish? She might not even know that she does that, so maybe you could try talking to her about that and about how sometimes you need to talk about you and need her to listen without her switching the subject back to her. If that doesn't work and you really do think the only solution is breaking up then trust me, initially it will be really hard, but we do move on. It doesn't mean you have to cut her from your life, even though that might be easiest in the beginning, but it takes time, and you will meet other people, and you will fall in love again.
if you love her dont' breake up with her.
dam dis is hard to explain but i use to have the same problem so yea i know how u feel but i think u should jux try ur best at getting it out of ur mouth (u know da words ) jux tell her dat i think u guys should see other ppl tell her dat it is very hard for u to say dat but u think it is the best for both of u dat way u can move on nd find a better girl dat isnt so full of her self
It's hard, it's true, to think about not being with someone who has obviously made an impact on your life.
First, you have to be sure that you don't want to be with this person. Once you decide this for sure, and you have to promise yourself that you won't go back and you won't regret it, then you can move forward to the next step - breaking up with her.
If you feel that being with her is more draining than fulfilling and that the times you have spent with her are more unhappy than happy, and if you feel that this cycle will not continue because of someone's inability to communite properly, then the relationship should end. That's just my opinion.
How do you break up? Well, there are many ways of course, but if you truly respect the person you really should do it face to face. As well, don't delay. Do it as soon as you can because the longer you sit and think about it, the more uncertainty you will have.
At the breakup itself, choose a public place so neither of you will act up and you can stay focused on your task. Be short and sweet...avoid a long goodbye, overly-flowery or romantic words, and don't spend 2 hours there. Say what needs to be said, and make sure she listens. Ask her to just listen to you for 5 minutes without saying anything or without interrupting. You need to have her listen for sure. Be brave, this is a difficult thing to do.
Good luck. And keep in mind that the longer that this goes on, it will be MUCH harder to break up with her in the future. If you're really sure youd on't want to be with her, decide on it, and move forward.
Something else that has helped me break up with others in my past is this thought:
You're with someone now, but how do you know someone more wonderful and well-suited to you isn't out there waiting for you? You don't even know they exist yet because you're with someone who isn't good for you. The only way you can meet the right person is to be available for them...and you can't be ready for them if you're with someone who makes you unhappy.
There are many more chicks u could date that r not selfish or rude. So u should dump her and move on. There will be some one better in ur life. Break it down to her easy and say it just wasn't working out.
know matter how carefully will be the break-up, we cannot deny the fact that hearts will still be broken... but it is still the best thing to do... if you really love her, set her free... if she really loves you, she'd do the same...
You just do it. Talk about it with her first, tell her how you feel and if she doesn't agree or try to change then break up with her. Just tell her you love her very much but this is not going to work out if ...umm...she can't stop being selfish (lol?). Just be honest. Number one thing is always communication, which I realize I didn't have in a very my last relationship (I wish I did).
Similar thing happened with my last girlfriend, she was selfish in a different kind of way though. She wanted a lot of attention and was bratty about it till I did something she wanted (for herself). I feel the same way you do though, I finally managed to muster it up and break up with her. She will be devastated I bet though, just be prepared if you do do it.
I have So been where you are at. And i stuck it out for two years and it made me a better person today but wasted so much of my time. I felt like i would just ';be so empty'; without this person. and then one day i just broke it off, i had to do the expected. and i felt great. went out and met some new friends and focused on me and what i wanted. you owe it to yourself to do that. Just let her go, you KNOW it needs to be done. GOOD LUCK HONEY!!!!
You have to make a clean break if that's what you really want. If you keep dating her, it's just going to get worse and you both are going to be hurt. You need to write down what you're going to say before you say it to her and stick to your guns.
Sorry man, that situation sucks.
dont break up with her stay with her but tell her what shes doing and she'll try to improve hope it works. good luck
well if you really love her then you shouldn't break up w/ her if she has emotional issues it's most likely because she has been hurt over and over and is afraid to get close to you which would also explain her hunger for attention and the way she is pulling away and lying just hang in there and show her how much you love her and let her know that you are not only there to talk to but you would never purposely hurt her then you won't even have to break it off and you might end up w/ a great lifelong partner and friend! best of luck yours truely supernatural goddess
You have the same problem i had. My boyfriend was a liar but i really loved him and one day he lied to me again so i just said we are over and left it at that. of course that day was yesterday.
first- think hard about if u r sure u want to break up w/ her, because if u do, there is no turning back
if u r sure that u want to break up w/ her, then don't have second thoughts, just tell her that it's not gonna work out, or something. if u want to be very nice, try saying some nice thing like u just want to be friends, but only if that's true...
good luck
Ouch. Tell her how you feel and if this does not work- I really do think it's best you split. First of all- she seems very seflish and needs a wake up call. You on the other hand should probably have some time to yourself because you seem like you depend too much on others emotionally and not enough on yourself. If both problems are overcome then maybe you guys could try it again. In the mean time, you could fall for someone who is better for you. But don't stay with someone if they are making you miserable- even if you love them it's not worth it and its not fair to you.
If you truly love her then talk to her. Tell her that she is being selfish. If you do really though want to break up with her than just go straight to her and tell her before you're wrapped up in a 5 month relationship. You know you are going to break up with her so you just have to and deal with the pain.
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