It has been about 2 weeks since the break up. She was my first girlfriend, love, practically my first kiss, and most importantly.. we both were firsts in sex. I was her first to only sex.. but for me it was everything lol. So we lasted 5 months but had sex 3 months. I tried to wait but it was hard, i made her wait 2 months to say i love you. Ever since we had sex she started acting wierd and being very angry. So after 2 months of her being wierd (wouldnt cuddle with me) and mean to me i broke up with her bc i couldnt handle it. We broke up twice in the end and im still having a tough time getting over her. I sometimes think of her.. not as much as the first week but i wish it would go away. I know we will never be togethor again. Her reason was, she doesnt have feelings for me anymore like she use to. Apparently i was too clingy? idk. I cried when i knew we were officially over for a while. To this day i think of her alot but we dont talk even after we removed each other from fb/aim. Its bc i get jealous and cant be her friend when im around her.. so its the only option i have.. Blahhh it feels like im in a huge hole. I was in love with this girl.. idk what happened. I mean what if she was the one and i let her slip away? I know im only 17.. im hoping to find someone new in college. But idk im so depressed and dk if ill find someone ill like. Thats my problem..... i dont have a problems with girls liking me.. i have a problem with liking girls. I'll think they are cute or hott but it takes alot for them to get me to actually like them. It wierd, im not really shallow. its just how i am.. they say the best way to get over ur ex/first is to find someone new.. but idk if i can do that.. i find it very hard for me to love someone and have them love me back.. anyone ever been in this before?... blah idk what to do.. im so emotional to my friends sometimes.. i feel really bad. I got in a fight with 2 of my best friends for nothing...... ahhh help =\First love/break up story.. help?
it has been said that it takes half the time that you were together to get over someone. if that's true then you have about another month or two maybe. it's gonna be tough since she was your first love ,so don't rush into anything new. you can just hang out with new girls you don't have to date them. hang in groups with them and your friends. distractions are the best way to get over someone besides dating someone new. so keep busy, focus on college and your new life. don't check up on your ex cause if she has moved on it will be torture. when you start thinking of good times remind yourself of some of something mean she did , just to have a clearer picture of how she treated you in the end. last but not least...just give it some time you will be ok.
Friday, August 20, 2010
What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
He fell in love with me and I don't feel the same way. He asked me to be his boyfriend but I said we lived too far apart. I kind of led him on by still seing him for many weeks. He's the sweetest guy and spoils me like crazy, but all my friends tell me to end it and not remain friends.
How do I break up with him. Should I do it over email?What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
Not by text msg, email, or any other electronic communication.
Up front, face to face.
If that's not possible, phone call.What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
OK, be honest. Explain to him that you don't share the same feelings for him as he has for you. This is no one's fault. Best to do it in person rather than by email, phone, etc.
Two months may seem like a long time, but it's not two years!
No, take a trip down to see him and do it in person! Explain why you feel you need to leave and more importantly listen to his thoughts and feelings! Break ups are hard, but if handled correctly you might be able to continue your friendship!
No email....you need to talk to him if you have any respect for him at all and it sounds like you do. You'll be doing him a favor because he needs to move on.
There is a blog on dating and relationship advices. You might be interested in the long distant relationship article
Out of my 33 girls I've only been dumped twice. One by phone and the other in person. I personally just stop calling them and they go away
Face this: Relationship won't work with Guilty!!!
Honestly and Respectfully.
How do I break up with him. Should I do it over email?What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
Not by text msg, email, or any other electronic communication.
Up front, face to face.
If that's not possible, phone call.What is the proper way to break-up with someone you've been dating for 2 months?
OK, be honest. Explain to him that you don't share the same feelings for him as he has for you. This is no one's fault. Best to do it in person rather than by email, phone, etc.
Two months may seem like a long time, but it's not two years!
No, take a trip down to see him and do it in person! Explain why you feel you need to leave and more importantly listen to his thoughts and feelings! Break ups are hard, but if handled correctly you might be able to continue your friendship!
No email....you need to talk to him if you have any respect for him at all and it sounds like you do. You'll be doing him a favor because he needs to move on.
There is a blog on dating and relationship advices. You might be interested in the long distant relationship article
Out of my 33 girls I've only been dumped twice. One by phone and the other in person. I personally just stop calling them and they go away
Face this: Relationship won't work with Guilty!!!
Honestly and Respectfully.
How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
Like after you break up with someone you really loved.How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
on average a year. How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
Edited:
According to research, there is no cure for the heartbreak that stems from lost love, if it was love in every sense of the word. 鈽?br>
In the case of a heartbreak that came from the loss of a companionship or connection of which one discovered was simple chemistry, there are theories as to measure how much time it takes to heal. One theory is that it takes just as long to heal as it took to start the relationship and then end it. Another one states that it takes just as long to feel whole and not ';in love'; as it took when one simply imagined the idea of the person, to the time they realized what they were all about. Dr. Susan London, in one of her books, said it only takes a day for a person to be hypnotized by specialists (for the purpose of forgetting).
鈽?As far as it being the case of falling in love 100%, there is always extra research to find a cure.
i broke up with the man i fell in love with about a over the summer and i have dated him for about two years...i fell in love...i thought i was going to marry him. i thought this is my wonder mann...then he cheated on me and i never forgave myself for being so stupid. and i have had one relationship since then and i am still...to this very day...in love with him. and i dont think i will ever not love him.
My dads girlfriend was quite right on the dot when she told me this.
When my boyfriend first broke up with me, she asked ';How long did you go out?'; I said ';5 months';. She says ';It takes half the time you dated them to get over them';
And wouldn't you know it..i was over him in 2 1/2 months.
Hope I helped :)
well it took me two years but honesty it depends on why you broke up and who broke up wit who and when YOUR ready to stop. But i really feel you never stop loving someone you truly love...
There's no real answer to that. Sometimes it can happen rather quickly and other times much longer.
sometimes if u just start dating again and putting urself out there it will go away
Sometimes you never do..I'm hoping someone changes my mind about that someday...
years.
on average a year. How long does it take to fall out of love with someone?
Edited:
According to research, there is no cure for the heartbreak that stems from lost love, if it was love in every sense of the word. 鈽?br>
In the case of a heartbreak that came from the loss of a companionship or connection of which one discovered was simple chemistry, there are theories as to measure how much time it takes to heal. One theory is that it takes just as long to heal as it took to start the relationship and then end it. Another one states that it takes just as long to feel whole and not ';in love'; as it took when one simply imagined the idea of the person, to the time they realized what they were all about. Dr. Susan London, in one of her books, said it only takes a day for a person to be hypnotized by specialists (for the purpose of forgetting).
鈽?As far as it being the case of falling in love 100%, there is always extra research to find a cure.
i broke up with the man i fell in love with about a over the summer and i have dated him for about two years...i fell in love...i thought i was going to marry him. i thought this is my wonder mann...then he cheated on me and i never forgave myself for being so stupid. and i have had one relationship since then and i am still...to this very day...in love with him. and i dont think i will ever not love him.
My dads girlfriend was quite right on the dot when she told me this.
When my boyfriend first broke up with me, she asked ';How long did you go out?'; I said ';5 months';. She says ';It takes half the time you dated them to get over them';
And wouldn't you know it..i was over him in 2 1/2 months.
Hope I helped :)
well it took me two years but honesty it depends on why you broke up and who broke up wit who and when YOUR ready to stop. But i really feel you never stop loving someone you truly love...
There's no real answer to that. Sometimes it can happen rather quickly and other times much longer.
sometimes if u just start dating again and putting urself out there it will go away
Sometimes you never do..I'm hoping someone changes my mind about that someday...
years.
After breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
Okay, here's the deal.
I broke up with her yesterday after two years, two months, and nineteen days. It sucked. I bawled. Etc. And she didn't flinch. I thought she was manipulative and controlling - and when I told her this, she said that everything I thought was manipulative and controlling was a joke. Well, those things didn't feel like jokes at the time.
Point is, today I feel like I made a mistake. A big mistake. I can't stop thinking about her and how she's doing and if she's being safe on her trip today or not. This makes me think: I still care, that's obvious. But do I still love her? Did I make a mistake thinking that I didn't love her? Because I've finally found the right answer to her question, ';Jen, what is it you want?'; The answer is, ';I WANT YOU! I want you and your love and noone else!';
And she's not going to take me back.
Any advice at all? Oh, god, this is sooo complicated. I really messed up.After breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
Yes is normal to feel this way, and the feeling wont rub off for quite a while even if you're the one breaking it up.
Hang in there, good luckAfter breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
It also sounds like the script from a romantic comedy or 2k. In your initial question are the words, ';don't love anymore'; and near the end of your detail, ';i want you and noone else'.
you are obviously confused and just as passionate about her. she is not a yo-yo though, so make up your mind and beg her forgiveness if that is what you decide.
You are confused and need to give this some thought and some time. If you thought she was manipulative and controlling, then she probably is and will manipulate you to think that you are wrong and she is right. However, I don't know both sides of the story, so give it some time and see what happens. A little time apart won't hurt the relationship unless one of the people is seeing someone else. So just take a deep breath and take some space and time to think about it. Good luck!
It goes along with that cliche: I love you, but I'm not in love with you. You still care for her, but you know she isn't the one.
You did the right thing. Time will heal you and you will find someone better and hopefully not so manipluative. She even made you feel bad for breaking up with her! That takes a special talent.
It'll be hard but move on. You will be happier in the long run. I wish you luck!
well sounds like ur confused..........but u might not still love her but the love u have for her will always be there it will just turn into a diffrent kind of love !!!!!!!!
It seems like you have messed up a little ... There is almost nothing you could do right now, just continue (not an easy task) and do something you have always wanted while being in the relationship but were not free to do (travel, paint, read a book late in the night ...) We all make mistakes, we all have our regrets, that's growing and such is life...
wait your a girl and shes a girl. Oh okay. Yeh it is normal to feel you did something wrong it is like that after all relationships dioesnt matter with a guy or a girl its gonna hurt. But you will get over it
I broke up with her yesterday after two years, two months, and nineteen days. It sucked. I bawled. Etc. And she didn't flinch. I thought she was manipulative and controlling - and when I told her this, she said that everything I thought was manipulative and controlling was a joke. Well, those things didn't feel like jokes at the time.
Point is, today I feel like I made a mistake. A big mistake. I can't stop thinking about her and how she's doing and if she's being safe on her trip today or not. This makes me think: I still care, that's obvious. But do I still love her? Did I make a mistake thinking that I didn't love her? Because I've finally found the right answer to her question, ';Jen, what is it you want?'; The answer is, ';I WANT YOU! I want you and your love and noone else!';
And she's not going to take me back.
Any advice at all? Oh, god, this is sooo complicated. I really messed up.After breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
Yes is normal to feel this way, and the feeling wont rub off for quite a while even if you're the one breaking it up.
Hang in there, good luckAfter breaking up with someone I loved and don't love anymore, is it normal for me to feel like I was wrong?
It also sounds like the script from a romantic comedy or 2k. In your initial question are the words, ';don't love anymore'; and near the end of your detail, ';i want you and noone else'.
you are obviously confused and just as passionate about her. she is not a yo-yo though, so make up your mind and beg her forgiveness if that is what you decide.
You are confused and need to give this some thought and some time. If you thought she was manipulative and controlling, then she probably is and will manipulate you to think that you are wrong and she is right. However, I don't know both sides of the story, so give it some time and see what happens. A little time apart won't hurt the relationship unless one of the people is seeing someone else. So just take a deep breath and take some space and time to think about it. Good luck!
It goes along with that cliche: I love you, but I'm not in love with you. You still care for her, but you know she isn't the one.
You did the right thing. Time will heal you and you will find someone better and hopefully not so manipluative. She even made you feel bad for breaking up with her! That takes a special talent.
It'll be hard but move on. You will be happier in the long run. I wish you luck!
well sounds like ur confused..........but u might not still love her but the love u have for her will always be there it will just turn into a diffrent kind of love !!!!!!!!
It seems like you have messed up a little ... There is almost nothing you could do right now, just continue (not an easy task) and do something you have always wanted while being in the relationship but were not free to do (travel, paint, read a book late in the night ...) We all make mistakes, we all have our regrets, that's growing and such is life...
wait your a girl and shes a girl. Oh okay. Yeh it is normal to feel you did something wrong it is like that after all relationships dioesnt matter with a guy or a girl its gonna hurt. But you will get over it
Someone you love or someone who loves you?
How do you break up with someone who loves you? I have a long distance bf and I want to break up with him. He's really nice and I can feel that he loves me so much that it makes me guilty to cheat on him (Sorta). How can I tell him that it's over and make him look for another girl?Someone you love or someone who loves you?
Lucky for you it's long distance, so he can't really see what's going on with your life. First of all don't tell him that it has anything to do with the fact that there is another guy. That kinda stuff hurts to much.
Here's the way I would lay it down to him.
Look I really like you a lot, but I can no longer deal with not having you in my life. I'm sorry but this is just to much for me. I'm wanting to find someone who I can see everyday if at all possible. I know this might seem selfish to you, but I have needs too.
This is a breakup letter. Please realize that I need to move on with my life and it really has nothing to do with you. I am not leaving this for debate. I also feel that if we continue to just be friends that it will continue to make this hard on both of us and I really need to just move on. Please let us cut the contact. If you want to email me, I can't stop you. Just know though that I will not respond back.
Obviously you will want to use your own words and what works and fits the relationship that you had. However, I think if you use this as a blue print it will help soften the blow.
If he bugs you too much afterwords you can always block his email. It really is best though if you lay it strait out and cut contact.Someone you love or someone who loves you?
Okay long distance relationships barely ever work out. You just need to tell him how you really feel. If your cheating that's not right and it will make the situation worse. Just tell him ma bey in the future if we see each other around. Tell him you want to keep in touch but you need to tell him now before it gets to hard and you can't do it.
You just have to tell him the truth. Don't be harsh but tell him that you don't have feelings for him and you think its time for both of you to move on.
Sounds like no one else will treat you better than him. He is a nice guy that loves you. You might not know it but there are not many people who do.
try 2 meet up with him %26amp;%26amp; break up wit him %26amp;%26amp; tell him how u feel.. idont recommmend 2 do it through text messages tho.. cuz it's harsh.
Be honest, tell him you are trashy and that you sleep around behind his back. That will get the point across.
well tell him that you really cant have a serious relationship when you cant see eachother i think that if hes mature enough he will understand ...i would lol. good luck
Just be honest.heart rate monitor red hair
Lucky for you it's long distance, so he can't really see what's going on with your life. First of all don't tell him that it has anything to do with the fact that there is another guy. That kinda stuff hurts to much.
Here's the way I would lay it down to him.
Look I really like you a lot, but I can no longer deal with not having you in my life. I'm sorry but this is just to much for me. I'm wanting to find someone who I can see everyday if at all possible. I know this might seem selfish to you, but I have needs too.
This is a breakup letter. Please realize that I need to move on with my life and it really has nothing to do with you. I am not leaving this for debate. I also feel that if we continue to just be friends that it will continue to make this hard on both of us and I really need to just move on. Please let us cut the contact. If you want to email me, I can't stop you. Just know though that I will not respond back.
Obviously you will want to use your own words and what works and fits the relationship that you had. However, I think if you use this as a blue print it will help soften the blow.
If he bugs you too much afterwords you can always block his email. It really is best though if you lay it strait out and cut contact.Someone you love or someone who loves you?
Okay long distance relationships barely ever work out. You just need to tell him how you really feel. If your cheating that's not right and it will make the situation worse. Just tell him ma bey in the future if we see each other around. Tell him you want to keep in touch but you need to tell him now before it gets to hard and you can't do it.
You just have to tell him the truth. Don't be harsh but tell him that you don't have feelings for him and you think its time for both of you to move on.
Sounds like no one else will treat you better than him. He is a nice guy that loves you. You might not know it but there are not many people who do.
try 2 meet up with him %26amp;%26amp; break up wit him %26amp;%26amp; tell him how u feel.. idont recommmend 2 do it through text messages tho.. cuz it's harsh.
Be honest, tell him you are trashy and that you sleep around behind his back. That will get the point across.
well tell him that you really cant have a serious relationship when you cant see eachother i think that if hes mature enough he will understand ...i would lol. good luck
Just be honest.
How do you break up with someone who loves you?
My boyfriend really is in love with me, and I've come to realize I can't be in a good relationship with him because I don't trust him. Before we got more serious he made a lot of stupid decisions and gave me reasons not to trust him. But I've realized my resentment for those things is only tearing us apart, no matter how much I try to trust him. So I think it'd be better off if we were friends, but I really love him, and I know he feels the same way and it's going to crush him. And it's gonna come from out of nowhere because he's convinced we're doing really good right now. :(How do you break up with someone who loves you?
I know the feeling...
But trust me, do it now before it becomes more serious...
The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
~RebeccaHow do you break up with someone who loves you?
ok go up 2 him tell him u gotta tak 2 him and u want this 2 go really well and say sumthin like um... i know u love meh and i love u but i just really wanna be friends and i hope u'll be friends with meh because im not tryna hurt you i just thinks its the rit thing to do so can you be mii friend and if i feel better i might can start another new realtionship with you :(
Don't tell him ';It's not you it's me'; routine because it really not you it's him. Tell him that you need to gain his trust back
go with ur heart:)
good luck!
I know the feeling...
But trust me, do it now before it becomes more serious...
The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
~RebeccaHow do you break up with someone who loves you?
ok go up 2 him tell him u gotta tak 2 him and u want this 2 go really well and say sumthin like um... i know u love meh and i love u but i just really wanna be friends and i hope u'll be friends with meh because im not tryna hurt you i just thinks its the rit thing to do so can you be mii friend and if i feel better i might can start another new realtionship with you :(
Don't tell him ';It's not you it's me'; routine because it really not you it's him. Tell him that you need to gain his trust back
go with ur heart:)
good luck!
Breaking up with someone you love?
I have been with my now fiance, for 2 years. I met him and fell very hard in love with him. But things have been going down hill. I left my hometown of Denver and moved to California for him. I feel like his drinking habits, money habits, video games, and buddies will always come befor I do. I do love him more then anything, but I feel like my life is on Pause, and ';going nowhere fast.'; I want to go back home but I am scared to tell him, he gets angry quickly and snaps out when somethings wrong. I don't know how to do it. I am aware that sometimes you just have to do it but I need advice on how. If someone could please help I would appreciate it.Breaking up with someone you love?
i know this is going to be hard, but you need to really make a list of the pros and cons
does he still make you feel loved?
was it worth u leaving your home town?why?
u might not take the advice if i just said leave him, so i wont say that, but i WILL say, you should live your own life for now
i KNOW its hard to just completely let someone go, so dont.
do things u want to do, but still be with him
be with him, but dont BE WITH HIM. he will see you as being distant in the same home and he will either tell you that he misses you
or he will not care
if he doesnt care, i know it hurts, but u need to leave cuz it will hurt 20 times more later on, i know.
if he does care, let him know you feel neglected. although he knows, explain to him everything you sacrificed for him.
then yall should sort out yall's differences i hope this helpedBreaking up with someone you love?
Ask yourself if you are sure that you want to do this?
Have you told him the above? See if he has a reaction to it, but tell him in a way so that he is calm or make him promise to be calm. If you really need to leave him then just do it.
Well maybe you should just like ignore him for a few days and maybe he will realize that what his doing is wrong it work for my mother it could work for you
I think he's a bruiser..First of all, don't worry%26amp; hurry...If u have some private photos with him,just try to get them first..Because he can use such things for revenge..If u're affraid of him then u can cause him to leave u in one month..(Just try to simple things that he doesn't like%26amp;that doesn't make him so angry.little dissatisfactions will take away him from u ). Change your style(hair,clothes,..) eat a piece of onion,garlic(i know it's hard to do) every evening(don't let him to see%26amp;eat) then try to kiss him..at home wear dirty clothes,creat some more...(but don't do all of them in one day,slowly..)If he asks u,just tell him''we're a good couple now,we spent 2 years together so I trust in u%26amp; I try be natural as if I'm..(or such things)But u now everyone has different personality so change/apply the methods according to his personality
Pack your things and leave when he's gone for the day. Angry...snaps...not a good sign. It's great that you have decided not to marry this fellow. Everything you've stated about his actions screams GET OUT. You and he probably jumped too fast into a deeper commitment and you're both way too young to manage a marriage.
Get your stuff and get out. Go home. He'll figure it out. I usually don't hold with not talking about it but in this situation talking about it is not going to help and you may be harmed.
Call your daddy have him bring a truck while the guy is at work...pack and get out.
Whenever it comes to love, things are difficult to answer. I will try.
Find something common between the two of you - like smthg which brought u together. Even if it means sitting and talking together in a park, going to a movie or skiing together or his sense of humour which is the best when u r out driving. Give him a chance. If it doesnt work, go out with him (like to CO) and dont come back on the return trip. Dont tell him in CA. You should feel safe and secure when u give him the news. He will probably have the time to think about the whole thing on his return flight/drive.
And I guess good guys are hard to find. I am a guy myself. I have my girl whom I cant marry coz of parents who oppose it. I would say you are so lucky that you are atleast together. Its easy to find fault and things u dont like in each other over a period of time. But if I get my love, I would not repent my decision come what may. I would not leave my love for booze or smoke or habits - coz I dont hv any habits of the kind so far.
And gift yourselves some time and space. Go away for some time - on a vacation alone. It might help both of you to think and prioritize. I know these answers are from the head. One shd think of an answer to this from the heart. I would first like to congratulate you for having got your love and can only wish you all the best for your future.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
As the old saying goes, “There are two sides to every coin.” What if you are in a dating relationship that is moving too fast or seems to be heading more toward manipulation than friendship? How do you slow things down with minimal hurt to the other person?
Here are some things to remember when you need to break off a dating relationship:
1. Do it personally. It is too easy to break up by writing a note, through a friend, or over the phone. (So I can’t just disappear, either? This is hard!) Go to their house or a neutral location and talk it out.
2. Pray about it before you go. Pray that you do the right things and then pray for the other person in advance.
3. Face the music. Be direct and firm, but not tactful. Don’t put it off if you know it needs to happen.
4. Pick a good time. A big occasion ( such as a prom ) is a bad time to break up. If you need to, do it long before that and go with someone else. Or, if time is short, and you can, go as friends in a group so that it reduces the pressure but you still don’t miss out on the big event.
5. Be honest, but not cruel. If you have cared for that person for some time, then you owe them an explanation for why you are breaking it off. Keep it simple. Don’t run them down. Hopefully it will be a time for both of you to grow.
A lot of people get hurt because the other person is simply too self-absorbed to be courteous in such situations. Simply treating the other person the way you would want to be treated can make it easier for both of you.
Ok, I just read the part where he gets angry quickly andsnaps out when something is wrong. And you do not know what to do.
Here is my best advice, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who verbally abuses you? If he is that way, he will not change.
You have to do what makes you happy, and it sounds like you really want to go back home, and that will make you happy!
It sounds like his friends are being an influence on his drinking, his money, his video games, and it does sound like his buddies will always come before you, if he doesn't change first!
I would sit down and talk with him calmly, and tell him exactly how you feel, and if he just goes off, then well, honey, you know what to do, you belong happy, and I know that you really want to go back home.
Honey, everyone tries to make a new life for themselves and their loved ones and sometimes it just is not ment to be.
He belongs in California with his buddies and his problems, and you belong with your family.
You gave it two years of your life, you need to regain those two years and live your own life!
What it comes down to is do you love yourself because that is who need to love first, then put things in perspective. You already know and it seems like you and him have probably gone over these things that bother you.You need to do what is best for you. In the long run money careers and education play a big part of your future. Get what you want out life before you marry someone who doesn't know what the heck they are doing with their own ! you sound like a smart girl make the right choice for you. Go back up hill honey ....... leave him with his x box or playstation and negative bank account before its to late.....
You just have to tell him. It won't be easy, but it will be better.
That is so sad, I would beat your boyfriend up if I saw him on the street . He is a Horrible MAN ! JUST HORRIBLE !
Well leaving your fiance is really your choice and if you feel like you need to leave him then I think you should do what you feel is best
u betta run u cant live with a man that snaps that quickly just tell him wat u think
do not tell him that you are leaving. leave him a note and just go home, tell him not to follow you or contact you, be firm and serious. gambler and alcoholic are something that almost can't be cured. don't waste your life anymore than you already have with him. good luck.
Since he gets mad fast i would suggest, if you really mean you want to leave him, then just do it. Wait until a night or day when he goes out and just leave. Pack your clothes and go. I mean if he really cared he would see that his lifestyle makes you unhappy and it obviously does not include you. If you can sit him down and talk to him and let him know you are unhappy and how hislife style is making you feel...if he doesn't respond to this your only option is to leave unannounced. There is a saying if you love someone let them go......
wow... talk to him about it calmly and if he spazes out be like ';Woah clam down.'; you know? Does he hit you? If he does u rlly need to leave him. or call the police to help. But anyway, just say that u feel like ur life has been going nowhere and that u do really love him..but u need to do that for yourself. Its just one of those things. Girl, please dont marry someone who snaps quickly. Do it for ur future kids. my unlce is like that ifeel SOO bad for his wife and kids.
If you are that afraid of him, leave immediately. When he is at work, pack your bags, box up your personals, get in your car and boggie on home. It will only get worse.
YOU MUST DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU!!! You really need to be honest with him, if you are scared of him then, you know what you have to do. Besides there is no place like home. Let your family know what is going on they will support you. Good Luck!
In one relationship, the most important component is ';Understanding';. What I can suggest you to do, have a nice talk with your fiance, tell him what you like and dislike. If he been so unreasonable, and you can't stand on it. You have no choice but to leave. If he able to change his life style for you, you should choose to stay.
Talk to him about it if your deeply in love with him. If he knows it really bothers you and if he really loves you, he will change.
Tell him you have decided you're leaving him and going back to Denver. Then do it.
if you don't tell him you will just be stuck in this situation and it won' change .so you just have to tell him how you feel and if he doesn't change then go back home .loving some body shouldn't make you miserable
Communication is the key. But get hime before he starts to drink %26amp; make sure you guys are alone. Listen to each other %26amp; comprimise, but not all his way.
Goodluck
Just let him know whats going on and move back to Denver. I'm so sorry to hear this :(
kick him to he curb sister..but maybe you want to give him another chance I mean there was something there for you to say yes to his proposal.
I would tell him that you love him but some things need to change or improve with the relationship. tell him you dont want to lose him but you might have to go your own way if he doesnt understand where you're coming from. If i know anything about relationships, its that he's taking you for granted and probably doesnt even realize it. (I've done it) Before you know it your packing up to go back home and it will hit him. If that doesnt get through to him I don't know what will.
Pack your things and go back home when he's at work. Give him a call when you get there and tell him how you really feel and that you need some time to think things out.
i know this is going to be hard, but you need to really make a list of the pros and cons
does he still make you feel loved?
was it worth u leaving your home town?why?
u might not take the advice if i just said leave him, so i wont say that, but i WILL say, you should live your own life for now
i KNOW its hard to just completely let someone go, so dont.
do things u want to do, but still be with him
be with him, but dont BE WITH HIM. he will see you as being distant in the same home and he will either tell you that he misses you
or he will not care
if he doesnt care, i know it hurts, but u need to leave cuz it will hurt 20 times more later on, i know.
if he does care, let him know you feel neglected. although he knows, explain to him everything you sacrificed for him.
then yall should sort out yall's differences i hope this helpedBreaking up with someone you love?
Ask yourself if you are sure that you want to do this?
Have you told him the above? See if he has a reaction to it, but tell him in a way so that he is calm or make him promise to be calm. If you really need to leave him then just do it.
Well maybe you should just like ignore him for a few days and maybe he will realize that what his doing is wrong it work for my mother it could work for you
I think he's a bruiser..First of all, don't worry%26amp; hurry...If u have some private photos with him,just try to get them first..Because he can use such things for revenge..If u're affraid of him then u can cause him to leave u in one month..(Just try to simple things that he doesn't like%26amp;that doesn't make him so angry.little dissatisfactions will take away him from u ). Change your style(hair,clothes,..) eat a piece of onion,garlic(i know it's hard to do) every evening(don't let him to see%26amp;eat) then try to kiss him..at home wear dirty clothes,creat some more...(but don't do all of them in one day,slowly..)If he asks u,just tell him''we're a good couple now,we spent 2 years together so I trust in u%26amp; I try be natural as if I'm..(or such things)But u now everyone has different personality so change/apply the methods according to his personality
Pack your things and leave when he's gone for the day. Angry...snaps...not a good sign. It's great that you have decided not to marry this fellow. Everything you've stated about his actions screams GET OUT. You and he probably jumped too fast into a deeper commitment and you're both way too young to manage a marriage.
Get your stuff and get out. Go home. He'll figure it out. I usually don't hold with not talking about it but in this situation talking about it is not going to help and you may be harmed.
Call your daddy have him bring a truck while the guy is at work...pack and get out.
Whenever it comes to love, things are difficult to answer. I will try.
Find something common between the two of you - like smthg which brought u together. Even if it means sitting and talking together in a park, going to a movie or skiing together or his sense of humour which is the best when u r out driving. Give him a chance. If it doesnt work, go out with him (like to CO) and dont come back on the return trip. Dont tell him in CA. You should feel safe and secure when u give him the news. He will probably have the time to think about the whole thing on his return flight/drive.
And I guess good guys are hard to find. I am a guy myself. I have my girl whom I cant marry coz of parents who oppose it. I would say you are so lucky that you are atleast together. Its easy to find fault and things u dont like in each other over a period of time. But if I get my love, I would not repent my decision come what may. I would not leave my love for booze or smoke or habits - coz I dont hv any habits of the kind so far.
And gift yourselves some time and space. Go away for some time - on a vacation alone. It might help both of you to think and prioritize. I know these answers are from the head. One shd think of an answer to this from the heart. I would first like to congratulate you for having got your love and can only wish you all the best for your future.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
As the old saying goes, “There are two sides to every coin.” What if you are in a dating relationship that is moving too fast or seems to be heading more toward manipulation than friendship? How do you slow things down with minimal hurt to the other person?
Here are some things to remember when you need to break off a dating relationship:
1. Do it personally. It is too easy to break up by writing a note, through a friend, or over the phone. (So I can’t just disappear, either? This is hard!) Go to their house or a neutral location and talk it out.
2. Pray about it before you go. Pray that you do the right things and then pray for the other person in advance.
3. Face the music. Be direct and firm, but not tactful. Don’t put it off if you know it needs to happen.
4. Pick a good time. A big occasion ( such as a prom ) is a bad time to break up. If you need to, do it long before that and go with someone else. Or, if time is short, and you can, go as friends in a group so that it reduces the pressure but you still don’t miss out on the big event.
5. Be honest, but not cruel. If you have cared for that person for some time, then you owe them an explanation for why you are breaking it off. Keep it simple. Don’t run them down. Hopefully it will be a time for both of you to grow.
A lot of people get hurt because the other person is simply too self-absorbed to be courteous in such situations. Simply treating the other person the way you would want to be treated can make it easier for both of you.
Ok, I just read the part where he gets angry quickly andsnaps out when something is wrong. And you do not know what to do.
Here is my best advice, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who verbally abuses you? If he is that way, he will not change.
You have to do what makes you happy, and it sounds like you really want to go back home, and that will make you happy!
It sounds like his friends are being an influence on his drinking, his money, his video games, and it does sound like his buddies will always come before you, if he doesn't change first!
I would sit down and talk with him calmly, and tell him exactly how you feel, and if he just goes off, then well, honey, you know what to do, you belong happy, and I know that you really want to go back home.
Honey, everyone tries to make a new life for themselves and their loved ones and sometimes it just is not ment to be.
He belongs in California with his buddies and his problems, and you belong with your family.
You gave it two years of your life, you need to regain those two years and live your own life!
What it comes down to is do you love yourself because that is who need to love first, then put things in perspective. You already know and it seems like you and him have probably gone over these things that bother you.You need to do what is best for you. In the long run money careers and education play a big part of your future. Get what you want out life before you marry someone who doesn't know what the heck they are doing with their own ! you sound like a smart girl make the right choice for you. Go back up hill honey ....... leave him with his x box or playstation and negative bank account before its to late.....
You just have to tell him. It won't be easy, but it will be better.
That is so sad, I would beat your boyfriend up if I saw him on the street . He is a Horrible MAN ! JUST HORRIBLE !
Well leaving your fiance is really your choice and if you feel like you need to leave him then I think you should do what you feel is best
u betta run u cant live with a man that snaps that quickly just tell him wat u think
do not tell him that you are leaving. leave him a note and just go home, tell him not to follow you or contact you, be firm and serious. gambler and alcoholic are something that almost can't be cured. don't waste your life anymore than you already have with him. good luck.
Since he gets mad fast i would suggest, if you really mean you want to leave him, then just do it. Wait until a night or day when he goes out and just leave. Pack your clothes and go. I mean if he really cared he would see that his lifestyle makes you unhappy and it obviously does not include you. If you can sit him down and talk to him and let him know you are unhappy and how hislife style is making you feel...if he doesn't respond to this your only option is to leave unannounced. There is a saying if you love someone let them go......
wow... talk to him about it calmly and if he spazes out be like ';Woah clam down.'; you know? Does he hit you? If he does u rlly need to leave him. or call the police to help. But anyway, just say that u feel like ur life has been going nowhere and that u do really love him..but u need to do that for yourself. Its just one of those things. Girl, please dont marry someone who snaps quickly. Do it for ur future kids. my unlce is like that ifeel SOO bad for his wife and kids.
If you are that afraid of him, leave immediately. When he is at work, pack your bags, box up your personals, get in your car and boggie on home. It will only get worse.
YOU MUST DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU!!! You really need to be honest with him, if you are scared of him then, you know what you have to do. Besides there is no place like home. Let your family know what is going on they will support you. Good Luck!
In one relationship, the most important component is ';Understanding';. What I can suggest you to do, have a nice talk with your fiance, tell him what you like and dislike. If he been so unreasonable, and you can't stand on it. You have no choice but to leave. If he able to change his life style for you, you should choose to stay.
Talk to him about it if your deeply in love with him. If he knows it really bothers you and if he really loves you, he will change.
Tell him you have decided you're leaving him and going back to Denver. Then do it.
if you don't tell him you will just be stuck in this situation and it won' change .so you just have to tell him how you feel and if he doesn't change then go back home .loving some body shouldn't make you miserable
Communication is the key. But get hime before he starts to drink %26amp; make sure you guys are alone. Listen to each other %26amp; comprimise, but not all his way.
Goodluck
Just let him know whats going on and move back to Denver. I'm so sorry to hear this :(
kick him to he curb sister..but maybe you want to give him another chance I mean there was something there for you to say yes to his proposal.
I would tell him that you love him but some things need to change or improve with the relationship. tell him you dont want to lose him but you might have to go your own way if he doesnt understand where you're coming from. If i know anything about relationships, its that he's taking you for granted and probably doesnt even realize it. (I've done it) Before you know it your packing up to go back home and it will hit him. If that doesnt get through to him I don't know what will.
Pack your things and go back home when he's at work. Give him a call when you get there and tell him how you really feel and that you need some time to think things out.
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